(e) As was recognised by the New South Wales Court of Appeal in Hunter v Hunter (1987) 8 NSWLR 573, at 574 - 575, per Kirby P (with whom Hope and Priestley JJA agreed):
'If cases of this kind were determined by the yardstick of prudent and intelligent conduct on the part of family members, the appeal would have to be dismissed. If they were determined by the criterion of the admiration, affection and love of the testator for members of his family, it would also have to be dismissed. Such are not the criteria of the Act. The statute represents a limited disturbance of the right of testamentary disposition. It establishes a privilege for a small class of the immediate family of a testator (the spouse or children) to seek the exercise of a discretionary judgment by the Court for provision to be made out of the estate different from that provided by the testator's will.'
(f) Even if the applicant bears no responsibility for the estrangement, its occurrence is nevertheless relevant to the exercise of the court's discretion under s 59(2) of the Act to make a family provision order where the jurisdictional requirements of s 59(1) are met. That the applicant had no relationship with the deceased for some years, and that there did not, therefore, exist between them the love, companionship and support present in normal parent/child relationships, during those years, is a relevant consideration: Keep v Bourke [2012] NSWCA 64, per Macfarlan JA, at [3].
(g) The poor state of the relationship between the applicant and the deceased, illustrated by the absence of contact for many years, if it does not terminate the obligation of the deceased to provide for the applicant, may operate to restrain amplitude in the provision to be made: Keep v Bourke, per Barrett JA, at [50].
(h) Where the applicant has been estranged from the deceased, the application of the Act requires that the estrangement be appraised and its causes considered. In addition, s 60(2)(m) permits the court to consider the character and conduct of the applicant at the second stage of the process. Care should be taken not to oversimplify the complex and nuanced relationships within a family by yielding to the temptation to condemn categorically the behaviour of one party or the other. Events viewed years later through the cold prism of a courtroom may give a different impression than when the events are set in the context of raw emotions experienced at the time: Foley v Ellis, at [102].
In Andrew v Andrew, Basten JA endorsed what I had said about estrangement, much of which is set out above, as follows:
'As explained by the primary judge, the term "estrangement", which was aptly applied, does not describe conduct, but the condition which results from the attitudes or conduct of one or both parties. It is a term sometimes applied to the "natural" process of separation of child from parent, which often peaks in adolescence, but may well continue into adult life, sometimes without resolution of the underlying tension. At least when kept within reasonable bounds, the negative consequences of such a process should arguably be ignored or at least not given disproportionate significance when assessing the expectation that a parent will provide for a child whose condition in life is financially disadvantageous, when compared with other claimants on the testator's conscience.'
His Honour added:
'The cases referred to above support the proposition that in the case of estrangement between an applicant and a testator, attention may need to be paid, so far as the evidence permits, to the apparent causes of the estrangement. Thus, if the immediate cause is overt hostility on one side, it may be necessary to apportion blame (or at least responsibility) for that situation.
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Without rejecting the analysis as inappropriate, there are at least limits on how far a court should go in seeking justification for the absence of "love and support" from a child for his or her parent. It goes without saying that some children feel greater love and affection for their parents than do others and that some children provide higher levels of support for their parents in their aging than do others. These are all considerations relevant to an assessment of the adequacy of the provision made by the testator for the proper maintenance, education and advancement of a child. However, whether in a particular case it would warrant the exclusion, or virtual exclusion, of the child from benefit under the mother's will, is another question. The appellant did not seek, in her evidence, to blame her mother for the breakdown in their relationship. Although the causes thus remained obscure, reticence, which may limit damage to her relationships with her siblings, is not to be discouraged. Although estrangement was no doubt painful to the mother, such conduct was surely less reprehensible than open hostility.
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Although the mother's reaction was entirely understandable and might have been shared by many parents, I am not persuaded that it justified the reduction of the daughter's share in the estate from that which might otherwise have been expected to a largely nominal sum. In these circumstances, the appeal should be allowed, and provision made for the appellant.'"
- In Rogers v Rogers at [152]-[154], I added:
"Acrimony or estrangement does not necessarily destroy the bonds of parental ties: Diver v Neal [2009] NSWCA 54 at [27].
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As Allsop P (as his Honour then was) wrote in Andrew v Andrew (2012) 81 NSWLR 656; [2012] NSWCA 308, at [7]:
'Inevitably in such a case, the rhetorical question is asked: Why should a mother leave anything to an adult daughter who has drifted away over a long period and become estranged? The word "should" in the question embodies various suppressed [premises] based on parental, filial and moral duties. If no articulation can be made as to why any parental duty recognised by society has been breached, why should the court intercede and interfere with the expressed testamentary wish?'"
- I also note the concise observations of Doyle J (Vanstone and Parker JJ agreeing) in Tiburzi v Butler (2017) 17 ASTLR 1; [2017] SASCFC 89 at [106]:
"… how a period of estrangement affects a claim will depend upon the circumstances of the particular case. Depending upon the nature and extent of the estrangement, and in some cases the reasons for it, it may in some cases be of little moment, or operate merely to restrain the level of provision to be made. In other cases it may go as far as defeating the moral claim of a plaintiff, or terminating the moral duty of the testator towards the plaintiff."
- Ultimately, although the relationship of parent and child is important and carries with it a moral obligation reflected in the Act, nevertheless, it is an obligation largely defined by the relationship which actually exists between parent and child during their joint lives.
- In this case, there was really no dispute that the duty owed by a parent to a child to provide maintenance and advancement in life will be reduced if the relationship was dysfunctional, intermittent or reduced in some other way. That conduct is likely to reduce the amplitude of provision to be made for the applicant: Tcpt, 11 November 2021, p 107(43-48).