- After the complainant became pregnant with their son C in 1997, the appellant "was always drunk. He didn't go to class. He didn't do his work. All he cared about was drinking and playing pool"
- Prior to C's birth, the appellant would put his fingers in her vagina while she was asleep and sometimes "he would be masturbating next to me while he did this". He "also started having sex with me while I was asleep".
- After C's birth, the appellant would yell and scream about the complainant and C having "disrupted his life". Sometimes "it would be because he was drunk but sometimes he just was angry anyway".
- Within a couple of weeks of C's birth the appellant "forced" the complainant to have sex by threatening to hurt C by holding him out in his arms and saying that "he would drop him if I didn't have sex".
- They moved to Claude Street in early 1998 and the appellant became insistent on having anal sex, using sex toys, vegetables, "Impulse deodorant cans", trying to put his fist into the complainant's vagina, sucking the complainant's breasts; pull her nipples. He "would have sex with me at the same time he was using an object on me". The complainant did not consent to any of this sexual behaviour.
- When they moved to Taylor Street, "there was more of the sex while I was asleep and that's where he first did the violent rapes". He would hold her down while she was struggling to get him off her.
- When they moved to Bundarra Road in Armidale in late 1999 or early 2000, on one occasion the appellant wore the complainant's bikini bottoms. He told her he had been wearing them "all day". C was present and the appellant had an erection.
- The appellant would have sex with the complainant while she was breastfeeding C. He continued to have sex with her while she was sleeping. He did not seem to care that he would wake up C.
- At Bundarra Road, he was violent, "he would throw things, he would punch the walls, punch the doors. He would push me, push me into things. Occasionally, he'd hit me. He hurt C. He's come home in drunken rages and he ... slammed [C's] head in the screen door".
- The complainant became pregnant again after non-consensual sex with the appellant.
- When they moved to Rivett in Canberra in October 2002, the appellant used "lots of verbal abuse ... how worthless I was, how worthless C was; we just weren't good enough. C was inadequate, he was a wimp. I was a bitch. We were ruining [MM]'s life, we were holding him back. It was pretty much every day".
- After the appellant moved back in May 2004 (having left in July 2003) "nothing had changed" in terms of violence. There was no "normal sex", "it would involve objects or mirrors or there was degrading ... he had nipple clamps". He would use a vibrator "vaginally and anally on me while he was having sex with me". He waxed her vagina despite her indicating she did not want him to do it, he said he "didn't care".
- The appellant "would make me spread my legs as wide as possible and he would make me spread my vaginal lips as wide as possible or he would and he would just sit and look or use a torch to look".
- In August 2004 "C ... told [MM] to get out" and the appellant left home.
- After they separated, he helped her move house (in 2004) and "wanted sex in payment for helping me move". He placed his penis in her vagina but she told him no and rolled over.
- In August 2005 the appellant tried to get into bed with the complainant but she resisted and he "called me a bitch ... a fucking cunt and he punched me ... in the eye". She had a "very obvious bruised eye". She told "everyone I fell out of bed" except for Tony Hurlt (sic), a work colleague, who she told "what had happened".