Statements by Deceased to Family Members Concerning the Relationship
121 As well as Christmas visits, over the period that the Appellant alleges the de facto relationship existed the Deceased was invited to some significant family events, like birthdays, weddings or christenings and her father's funeral, and attended the majority of them. The Appellant usually did not attend. It is clear, however, that in general her relations with her stepmother and step-siblings were not particularly close, though she seems to have been close to Martin. However, Martin lived overseas from December 1998, returning only occasionally for important family events.
122 Michael Egan gives evidence that between March and August 2001 their father was in a nursing home, and on at least four occasions he drove to the Bondi flat to collect the Deceased and take her to see their father, that on each occasion he went into the flat and had a cup of tea with her, but on each occasion he did not see the Appellant there, and that generally he used the bathroom and did not see evidence of men's toiletries, towels or a toothbrush to indicate that there was any person other than the Deceased living in the apartment. On another couple of occasions he went to the Deceased's flat to take her to a family occasion, and did not see the Appellant there. He observed no overt affection between the Deceased and the Appellant.
123 According to both Michael and Renate Egan, when they went to the Deceased's apartment after her death they found a small bag of tools, two plastic bags containing men's clothing, a pair of men's shoes, and a pair of boots. Michael says that the Appellant attended the flat on 4 May 2003, but when he was asked if those items were his, he denied that they were and did not take them. A friend of Michael, Mr Frederick Collas, confirms that a man attended the flat that day, was shown those items, but denied they were his. The Appellant disputes that evidence. When the Appellant came to the flat that day he made clear that, in his view, the Egans should return to the flat all the items they had taken out of it. As Michael put it, "he accused me of stealing all their stuff. He said he wanted it all returned …".
124 Both Michael and Renate say they did not find any men's toiletries or toiletries that might be associated with a man at the flat. They did not find any mail addressed to the Appellant at the address of the flat, but found some documents (already considered above) addressed to the Appellant at different addresses. That correspondence was, quite deliberately, not made available for the Appellant to take if he wished. They found mail addressed to the Deceased at the address of the flat from Telstra, Foxtel, Optus, Commonwealth Bank, Sydney Water, and medical accounts, but no mail addressed to anyone other than the Deceased at the address of the flat.
125 So far as Michael was aware, the Appellant was a friend or acquaintance of the Deceased who occasionally assisted her. He never enquired about the basis of their relationship.
126 Renate Egan gave evidence of visiting the Deceased at the Bondi flat from when she first moved in, in 1997, until the Deceased died. She says that during the last five years of the Deceased's life she visited her on average six to eight times a year, and that on each of the occasions she visited she did not see evidence of anyone else living in the apartment with the Deceased. Once she had found out about the illness of the Deceased in mid-2002 she contacted the Deceased weekly and "often" called in on her way home from work. On those occasions she assisted the Deceased with the washing. On those occasions (ie after mid-2002) the Appellant was not there. Renate had, however, seen the Appellant at the Deceased's apartment on about two occasions. She says:
"On one occasion I recall I saw the Plaintiff returning to the apartment with milk and cake. I saw him give Roberta receipts and some change."
127 Renate gives evidence that on one occasion she asked the Deceased what the relationship between her and the Appellant was, to which she replied:
"He is a friend. He doesn't try to get physical with me and I appreciate that. I'm not interested in any physical relationship with him. He does things for me like he drives me around sometimes."
128 Renate also gives evidence of going in July 2001 with the Deceased and the Appellant to the Blackheath property to retrieve a motorcycle, that they had lunch together, and on that occasion the Deceased paid for the Appellant's meal.
129 Renate visited the Deceased at the hospice "almost daily". She enquired about the Appellant, to which the Deceased said:
"He's left town. He turned out to be someone other than I thought. I want nothing to do with him."
130 However, Renate accepted in cross-examination that, while the Deceased had not told her very much about the Appellant,
"Roberta was quite particular at keeping the two parts of her life very separate … She avoided telling us in any details at all about Mr Piras being held in remand in Silverwater. She subsequently told me he had left town when I enquired. She didn't tell us about the apartment being turned over by the police when he was arrested there. That would have been very distressing for her but she chose not to tell us …"
131 Martin gave evidence of returning to Australia in 2001 for his father's funeral, in the course of which he visited the Deceased twice. The Deceased and her three step-siblings had their photograph taken together. Martin recalls taking the Deceased back to her flat after the photograph was taken, that the Deceased had some difficulty opening the door, that she telephoned the Appellant and asked him to come around to help, that the Appellant did not have the key to the flat, and that once access had been gained the Appellant left. After that visit, Martin only returned to Australia in March 2002 for his own wedding, and in April 2003 to see the Deceased. He says that the Deceased never discussed the Appellant with him in terms of her sharing a flat with the Appellant, or going out together with the Appellant as a couple, or to any social event.
132 Victoria Egan gives evidence that on several occasions she asked the Deceased who the Appellant was, and on each occasion the Deceased said "he is just a friend". Victoria says that she never saw any displays of affection between them.
133 The Deceased told Victoria in May 2002 that she had been diagnosed with cancer. The Deceased said she had not told her before because of Martin's wedding. Victoria gives evidence of seeing the Deceased after that telephone conversation at the Bondi flat, finding the Deceased alone, and that the Deceased did not mention the name of the Appellant to her. Victoria took her from the Bondi flat to hospital for chemotherapy and radiation therapy "a few times in late 2002", and brought her back to the flat after that therapy. From January 2003 Victoria's visits became more frequent. On one occasion Victoria asked the Deceased about the plaintiff, and was told, "He has gone away. I am glad he is not here."
134 Mr Lytton and his wife returned to Australia to live in October 1991. The Deceased told Mr Lytton in May 2002, when she was visiting the Lytton home, that she was dying. He gave evidence of having met the Appellant six or seven times overall, including one occasion after the death of the Deceased. He gives this evidence:
"To the best of my recollection, Roberta only spoke to me about her relationship with the plaintiff on two occasions. The first occasion was when Roberta said to me "Augusto promised Adrian he would look after me after he died." The second occasion was in approximately October 2002. I was at Roberta's flat with her and the plaintiff. The plaintiff went out to buy food. Roberta wrongly interpreted my facial expression as being quizzical of her relationship with Augusto and Roberta said "We're just friends, you know." Roberta and I did not otherwise discuss the domestic affairs …"
135 Mr Lytton says that whenever he saw the Appellant in the company of the Deceased he never observed any overt displays of affection between them, and they did not speak in terms of endearment to one another,
"but then I never knew Roberta to be a demonstrably affectionate person. The plaintiff's demeanour to Roberta never struck me as anything other than that of a caring and perhaps her closest friend.
I visited Roberta at her flat at Bondi on several occasions in the last year before her death. On no occasion did I notice any evidence of occupation by any person other than Roberta."