Q. Did you go home at all?
A. No. I was still in my clothes. I pretty much beginning to stink, you know, I'm sorry, for this. I was in my work clothes, my work has glue on my clothes, and everything else."
183 He telephoned Omar's mother on the night of the accident and she arrived 3 days later, by which time Mr Kouri had still not returned to his home. Asked how he felt in that period, he replied:
"How I felt? I felt hopeless. I felt - I can't express to you how I felt as far as emotion, you know. I mean, he's your son, your loved one. It's just you see him that way. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I wouldn't want anyone to see that or go through that. I mean, if my son would have been, let's say, passed away, then my life now would have been, you know, perhaps back to normal because, I mean, we all lose loved ones, but to see that, you know, and to live through it is pretty shocking. It's the worst scenario human beings could go through probably is this one here."
184 After Mrs Cohen arrived, he went with her to Omar's room, "she was weeping" and after about ½ an hour he left the hospital for the first time since arriving. He went to his brother's house at Yagoona, where he had a shower and changed his clothes.
185 Omar was in the Intensive Care Unit for 3 weeks, during which Mr Kouri spent most of the time with him, sleeping on a chair in his hospital room. Once he overheard a doctor saying that Omar's chances of survival were very low, "it was just, it was just like somebody stabbed you in your heart".
186 Omar was moved from the Intensive Care Unit to the brain injury recovery ward on 13 September 2002. Mr Kouri was not permitted to stay there beyond 8pm but he would return before 7am the following day. He would then sit with him throughout the day, trying to talk to him, massaging his feet etc. He said that he found it very hard to leave at 8pm.
187 At night, he returned to the flat at Ryde where he had been living with Omar. He was there alone, as before the accident his wife Nina had separated from him. He said that he drank himself to sleep every night with vodka.
188 On 28 October 2002 Omar was discharged from Liverpool Hospital and transferred to Ryde Rehabilitation Centre. However, on 13 November he was returned to Liverpool Hospital for various surgical procedures. By then, he had developed an egg sized odorous hole from dead tissue in his sacrum area, which concerned Mr Kouri to such an extent that on one occasion he started screaming in a loud voice in the hospital corridor. He feared his son was dying. However, the wound responded to treatment and eventually healed over a lengthy period.
189 By January 2003, Mr Kouri said that Omar's face had resumed its pre accident shape. He had not returned to his employment but was being paid workers compensation for a previous shoulder injury. He returned to work during 2003, but did not work a full day.
190 In the meantime, in September 2002, he consulted his general practitioner, Dr Peter Cook who prescribed medication, including Prozac (a drug he said he had never previously taken) and recommended that he consult a specialist. He consulted Dr Karima Soliman at Auburn, "a couple of times". Afterwards he consulted Dr Sue Adams from time to time. He took medication as prescribed, which helped, particularly Prozac. For a while he continued to drink alcohol to excess. Since September 2005, he has regularly consulted Dr Helen Clarke, a general practitioner who specialises in counselling (cognitive behaviour) and family therapy.
191 Mr Kouri who continued to visit Omar every day in the rehabilitation unit at Liverpool Hospital at one point became concerned that Omar was being left alone for long periods, "strapped to a table with his head slumped and drooling from the mouth". He made representations to "the insurance" about this and a nurse was provided day and night to be with Omar. This had a calming impact:
"That's when I began to somehow ease off a little bit, you know, the stress and the booze and things like that, beginning to focus a bit more."
192 Even after he resumed work, he went to the hospital every day and tried to help with Omar's showering, an assistance, which some nurses welcomed and others did not. He would leave the hospital about 9am then, five days a week, go to work for several hours before returning to the hospital. At weekends, he would basically stay with Omar all day.
193 He initiated the discharge of his son from hospital, convincing doctors that he could provide at home what was being provided in hospital. A number of people were involved in this, apparently led by Dr Adeline Hodgkinson. Among other things a suitable home at Ryde was located for him to rent and it was to this home that Omar was discharged from hospital in October 2003. Omar has continued to live in the house with his father. In addition Omar has always had at least 2 carers, 24 hours a day working 12 hour shifts.
194 Mr Kouri continued to work for A W Tod, but before leaving for work, he prepared Omar's breakfast and lunch from provisions he had bought. When he returned from work about 3.30pm he prepared Omar's evening meal and spent the rest of the day with him until Omar went to sleep about 8pm. As there were always carers present, Mr Kouri established what he called his "private space" in the garage. He would also wake Omar in the mornings and for about two hours talk to him and give him stretching exercises.
195 Notwithstanding the presence of the carer's, Mr Kouri said that he, quite often during the night, attended Omar "just to see how he's doing, temperature, cold, hot, warm……. I always make sure if he's hot, I make sure he's cool, if he's warm - all these things". He also assisted the carers in showering Omar.
196 Mr Kouri's employment with A W Tod was terminated in October 2005. After this, he adopted what he described as a "hands on" role in caring for his son. Previously he had only on one occasion interrupted his constant attention to Omar by going to Melbourne in early 2005 to watch his nephew Marcos Baghdatis play in the Australian Tennis Open in Melbourne. Although he reached the final, Mr Kouri telephoned him and said "I hate to miss your final with Roger Federer but I really can't stay here any longer because I miss my son. I have to go home".
197 In or about June 2006, he arranged to be put on the pay roll of Global Advantage (Global), which was providing and continues to provide Omar's carers. He said he found the physical demands of a carer very difficult:
"The difficulty with it really is it's just too much for me to be there with him 12 hours as a worker and to be able to stand on my feet by the end of the day. My back's been shot, my span of attention is gone and I just couldn't do it."
198 Cross-examined by Mr Campbell, Mr Kouri agreed that Omar's job with P & M was the longest job he had since leaving school and his first regular employment. He told Mr Campbell that his other son Michael (not by Mrs Cohen but the product of an earlier marriage) lives in Canada and that he sees him infrequently. He agreed that of all the relationships in his life, Omar has been the one constant for whom he has always felt and cared most about. He agreed that even with 2 carers in the house, he assists with Omar's physical comfort whenever he thinks it appropriate. Mr Kouri said that Omar is visited regularly by a physiotherapist, Mr Philip Wheen and by a speech therapist, Ms Margie Logan, twice a week. He said that a Mercedes Sprinter van was provided by the Workers Compensation insurer for Omar's use about two years ago, previously, when required, a taxi for the disabled was hired. Omar is taken on regular outings by motor vehicle to movies, shopping centres, parks etc.
199 Mr Kouri denied Mr Campbell's proposition that Omar presently receives care at a higher level than he needs. He agreed with Mr Donaldson in cross-examination that since May 2002, he has had serious work related problems with his shoulder and was working under some physical restraint. He had refused to have surgery and had found physiotherapy painful. As at August 2002, he was unable to lift more than 5 kilos with his left arm and unable to use it above shoulder height. He was still seeing doctors about the injury in March 2005.
200 He told Mr Donaldson that his marriage with Nina ended early in 2002. As a consequence, he was depressed and consulted his general practitioner, Dr Peter Cook. He could not recall whether he was referred to a psychiatrist, nor whether Prozac was prescribed, but conceded he might have been taking Prozac in the period prior to the accident. Mr Webb, during his cross-examination of Mr Kouri, had admitted into evidence as exhibit 3D -3, a statement made by Mr Kouri before Omar's accident as to his duties with A W Tod. He agreed the document was accurate except in so far as it stated that his duties included loading stairs on to a truck. He agreed that before the accident his normal work hours were 7am to 3pm, although he said there was some flexibility in them. He was paid $35 per hour for a 38 hour week.
201 Mr Kouri told Mr Webb that at the time of giving evidence he had no disability or pain in his left shoulder. Demonstrating, he lifted his left arm into the air and rotated it. However, he claimed that it was still painful in May 2003. He agreed with Mr Webb that he continued to obtain from Dr Cook certificates as to his unfitness for work due to an injured left shoulder until January 2003, when he returned to work. He admitted that in the period from August 2002 to January 2003 he was not wholly unfit for work as in that period he was fit for the selected duties, which he was performing on the day of Omar's accident.
202 He told Mr Webb that while employed as Omar's carer by Global, he earned about $60,000 per annum, working 12 hour shifts. His taxable income from A W Tod in the period after the accident was respectively, 2003 - $48,000, 2004 - $44,000 and 2005 - $43,000.
203 In the period between leaving A W Tod in October 2005 and going on the payroll of Global about June 2006, he told Mr Webb that he spent virtually all day, every day, in assisting with Omar's care, despite the fact that he also had 2 carers.
204 It emerged during Mr Webb's cross-examination that during the period of about a year he was employed by Global, he injured his back while turning Omar in the shower. He said that he had never injured his back previously throughout his working career and that as a consequence, he took time off work with Global and received workers compensation payments for about 6 weeks. He also had physiotherapy and was provided with a waist belt to aid lifting
205 He said by the time he returned to work with Global, his back was better and he denied that it was the reason he gave up his employment with Global, he explained:
"Working with Omar 12 hours a day is very difficult work and, like I said, I was a worker, I have a co-worker who worked with me, and I would not have a chance to take a break like I used to. I have to be there for him 12 hours a day, besides cooking and shopping and lifting and showering and all these things. At the end of the day, I physically, total - my total physical very, very, very tiring, not just my back. Physically was more, probably - it was physically more tiring than anything else, you know. I was tired. I can't - I can't be there 12 hours. It's just too, too hard for me."
206 Mr Kouri said that in addition to working 12 hour shifts for Global, he continued to provide care for Omar beyond that for which he was being paid, such as shopping, food preparation and cooking and the training of new carers.
207 At the time he gave evidence at the end of September 2007, Mr Kouri said that he had not looked for work since resigning from Global. Asked the reason, he replied:
"Because whether I get paid or not, I want to be looking after my son until I be able to settle my son and have the right people and the right carers and the right environment and perhaps have someone or two, I could train them and enlighten them on Omar's taste in food and so on. I haven't felt comfortable yet to be able to leave my son."
208 Later, he added:
"The physical toll I have, I don't think I am capable of going back to my heavy lumber lifting, all that stuff, because my back become a bit - like I said, my back get hurt by just walking around and helping my son, so I could imagine, if I'm going to be lifting stairs and wood and all that stuff, it would be impossible for my back to handle that."
209 Asked whether he could see himself performing light sedentary work, he replied, "I could see myself managing my son's affairs". He said that he could not see himself having the capacity to work for somebody else in a sedentary capacity.
210 In relation to his 2007 tax return, Mr Kouri was cross-examined by Mr Webb about his claim for a deduction of "travel for job $1,528". Asked to explain the deduction, Mr Kouri gave the unconvincing explanation:
"A. I don't have no idea. Maybe perhaps I'm using my vehicle to get his grocery, not his vehicle - I don't know. I used my vehicle to buy his grocery and everything else, because his vehicle's too big to go to shopping centre and places like that.