The factual circumstances of the claim
- Ms Murdock's evidence was contained in an affidavit. Her police statement was an annexure. No oral evidence was given. As this is an ex parte application, and because the various forms of evidence were consistent, I accepted the account of Ms Murdock.
- Ms Murdock was 40 years old at the time of the assault on Saturday, 4 July 2015, having commenced a relationship with Mr Betham about 20 years earlier and having been married for most of that time.
- Mr Betham and Ms Murdock have a son, 15 years old at the time of the assault, who lived with them. Ms Murdock also has a daughter from a previous relationship. Ms Murdock saw Mr Betham as a "protector", a "family‑oriented person" who instilled in her children "great values and signs of respect". Apart from an incident early in the relationship in about 2001, and a consequent separation, Ms Murdock recounted that Mr Betham had never previously physically hurt her. But in 2015, Mr Betham became controlling of Ms Murdock and Ms Murdock was "feeling suffocated" by Mr Betham needing to know where she was at all times. Ms Murdock had raised this with Mr Betham but it remained unresolved.
- On Friday, 3 July 2015 Ms Murdock spent the evening with a friend, Rachel, and returned home after breakfast. Mr Betham and Ms Murdock then dropped their son at work, did some shopping, returned home and Ms Murdock began preparing dinner. Mr Betham came up behind her, grabbed her throat, ignored her protest, turned her around and pushed her by the throat to another room. As she resisted, Mr Betham squeezed tighter around her neck, making it difficult for her to breathe.
- Mr Betham was carrying a large knife. Ms Murdock protested. Mr Betham questioned her about the previous night, then grabbed some electrical tape and placed it on her mouth, although she was still able to mumble her words. Mr Betham commanded her to take her clothes off and when she was unable quickly to remove her shirt, Mr Betham "cut it off" her. Ms Murdock was then completely naked. Mr Betham then taped her hands together behind her back and in the process lashed out at her hand and cut her wrist.
- Ms Murdock's attempts to have Mr Betham put the knife down and talk were unsuccessful. Twelve months previously she had had breast enlargement surgery and Mr Betham began "tapping her breast" and said, "See those things, I will cut them out." He "slashed out" at her with the knife and cut her right breast. Blood came from a deep wound. When Ms Murdock protested, Mr Betham slashed her left breast twice, once just above the nipple area and another slightly higher across her chest. Mr Betham said, "There is no going back from this." He was rambling and crying. He swung the knife at Ms Murdock's face but missed, just grazing her chin. Ms Murdock said, "You promised you would never hurt me and look at me, look [at] my chest, look at what you have done." Mr Betham said, "I am sorry I went back on my word."
- The phone rang. Mr Betham did not answer it. He took the knife and struck Ms Murdock on the head with the butt of the knife. She was dazed and found herself sitting on the floor resting against the bed. Mr Betham then picked her up and she sat on the side of the bed. Mr Betham was talking and crying, saying, "I will not be walking out of this room. I am not sure if I am going to take you with me or not" and, "We don't have much time left."
- Ms Murdock thought Mr Betham was planning to take his own life and perhaps hers. She was cold, naked, wounded with blood dripping on her body and down her legs. She was refused permission to have a drink or go to the toilet. She was commanded to lie on the bed. Mr Betham sat on top of her. He still had the knife. Ms Murdock was upset and crying. She spoke of not wanting to die painfully and not having said goodbye to her son or mother. Mr Betham said, "We both got the same goodbye as we dropped [our son] off at work." Ms Murdock said, "I want you to know that I do not want to die now I am not ready to die, please sit me up." Eventually, Mr Betham got up and they sat on the bed. Mr Betham said, "Look what I've done to you Mel." Ms Murdock said, "My arm is really sore and I don't know what is wrong with it." Mr Betham cut off the tape. Mr Betham wrapped her wrist with a bandage. Ms Murdock was given a singlet which she put on her chest to cover the wounds.
- Ms Murdock called her friend, Rachel, as Mr Betham was kneeling on the floor crying. It was more than four and a half hours since the assault began. Mr Betham then helped Ms Murdock put on some clothes. They then jumped in the car to pick up their son from work. Mr Betham explained that they needed to go to the hospital as, "I hurt your mum tonight". Ms Murdock was then treated at the hospital and remained overnight, and gave a police interview.