Reason(s) for leaving the country
74. As to the reason(s) that she took her child out of the country, Ms B told the jury:
I just thought I can't stomach this anymore. I'm getting sick as well. I'm going to go to Europe. I know Europe well and I'm going to get a proper assessment and I will then try and get back safely…even today I cannot see that staying would have been a safer option with all the things that I have looked at. (AB 5/857)
75. She referred to the Hague Convention (on the abduction of children) and said (AB 5/884) that she had the idea that if she went overseas and her child was assessed, and there was indeed a risk to the child, then the child did not have to be returned.
76. She agreed that she did not think the Family Court was going to investigate properly and did not think it was going to find abuse "the way they were approaching the issue" (AB 5/1017). She agreed that she made a conscious decision when she left Australia (AB 5/1016.44), though she maintains that it was not a voluntary choice (because she had a duty to protect her son and had to choose between that and compliance with the parenting order). She said (at AB 5/1020.80):
I needed to get out of the Australian system so that I could get a proper investigation. There is nowhere in Australia where I would be avoiding the Family Court orders to force me to use only Dr Waters.
77. By letter dated 24 April 2008 (AB 367), which Ms B does not suggest she did not receive before she left, Clinch Neville Long Letherbarrow responded to Ms B that they had only just received Dr Waters' report (and had advised Mr B's solicitors of this and could not provide a response at that time). It is apparent from this letter that Ms B's lawyers were under the impression that matters were still to be prepared for the purposes of the ongoing proceedings and were not aware of the impending departure of Ms B. The letter referred to the correspondence from the independent children's lawyers, which it was said seemed to indicate that, in Mr B's view, Dr Waters' report supported the conclusion that there was no risk to the child, but went on to say: "I do not want you to read anything into that observation until such time as we have had the opportunity to read the report ourselves".
78. Ms B, however, did not wait for advice as to the import of Dr Waters' conclusions (let alone did she wait to read the report fully). She formed the conclusion that it was likely that unsupervised access would be permitted. She told the jury that "whatever" Dr Waters wrote in that report would not help because he did not investigate her son and that this was the issue - she needed the abuse investigated (AB 5/1026.44). In her submissions on this appeal, Ms B continued to refer to Dr Waters' report as one that would or was likely to result in an order that the child live with the father. (There is no objective basis for such a conclusion in light of Dr Waters' recommendation for a reduction in contact visits to twice weekly.)
79. Ms B told the jury:
I can't remember the exact point at which I thought, "That's it, I'm leaving," but I had thoroughly investigated, from my perspective, every possible avenue. I was speaking to experts and the lawyers. I thought that the lawyers were advising me on every possible avenue I could take with the courts and I just did not accept the situation. (AB 5/839.50)
and:
I thought … it's going to be better in Europe … get a proper assessment … where they accurately assess his risk, and then I will get protected by The Hague and then I can negotiate my return. (at (AB 5/884) (my emphasis)
80. Ms B referred to getting an assessment of her son and proper legal status "so I could then negotiate my way back to Australia" (AB 5/886). She told the jury that had the authorities gone in and investigated and done something; had they stopped her son having contact with Mr B and investigated the allegations, then she would not have had to leave (AB 5/856). She was adamant that the Family Court did not protect her son and had forced him into "excessive" contact.
81. She also said that her lawyers did not tell her that she could have sought an urgent hearing; rather they had said that she had to wait until 5 June (AB 5/850). (Presumably, that advice must have been before the report was received and before the lawyers had had an opportunity to advise Ms B as to the report - which they had asked for before she jumped to any conclusions about it.)
82. In cross-examination, Ms B agreed that she had chosen to leave because she was not happy with the way things were going in Australia (AB 5/898.49) and agreed that she did not accept the way that the Family Court proceedings appeared to be unfolding (AB 5/895.6). She maintains that those answers need to be put in the context of the other answers she had given (the substance of which I have sought to encapsulate above).
83. Professor Briggs gave evidence at the trial as to her communications with Ms B, including a telephone call in 2008 after Ms B had left the country and was in Frankfurt. Professor Briggs said that she had never advised Ms B to leave Australia because she knew what the consequences would be (AB 4/456). She had earlier referred in her evidence to the Hague convention (AB 4/451). Professor Briggs had given more detail about this conversation in her earlier evidence in the absence of the jury. There, Professor Briggs said that she recalled the very words she had said to Ms B when the latter told her that she had taken her son out of the country: "My God, don't you know about the Hague Convention". She said that she had warned Ms B, presciently as it turned out, that the federal police would find her, they would probably remove the child and:
… from past experience of other cases, that the child would end up in an institution, and that she [Ms B] would be imprisoned, and that the child would go to the father
84. Professor Briggs said that she told Ms B that it was extremely damaging for children to be snatched from their mothers in that situation. According to Professor Briggs (and Ms B did not cross-examine to suggest this was not the case), Ms B's response was that the Family Court was determined to give the father "at least shared parenting, and probably would give him residence of the child" (AB 4/3 - 15 October 2013). There is no objectively reasonable basis for such a conclusion at the time Ms B left the country. Dr Waters' conditional report did not support that.
85. The Crown did not seek to elicit from Professor Briggs, in front of the jury, that she had advised Ms B to return, explaining that it considered it would be prejudicial to Ms B, and her Honour did not rely on this in her reasons on the unavailability of the defences.
86. In a statement sent to Professor Briggs in about 2009, an edited version of which was admitted as Exhibit P at the trial, Ms B set out her views of the legal process and summarised her reasons for leaving as follows:
Brent Waters [sic] response to my son's deterioration - he said it was because 4 contact sessions per week were too many for a child of this age. He maintained that the above symptoms were a sign of fatigue and that the bed wetting was a sign of 'deep sleep'. He avoided comment on the sexualised behaviours. I asked him to help get the contact sessions reduced but he refused saying that the Court Orders were nothing to do with him.
I sent repeated emails to my lawyers at the time detailing the behaviours I was observing and expressing extreme concern that my son was deteriorating.
- my lawyers responded to my concerns and did what they could but they were unable to stop or reduce the visits
- a Barrister told me (in writing) that it would cost me $14,000 to appeal the contact orders and that I would be very unlikely to succeed. He also mentioned that I should be cautious about criticising the Judge's decision as under the Magellan System I am stuck with the same Judge for the entire process. This is the Judge, if I return to Australia, who decides on my son's future.
My decision to leave Australia
I spent thirty thousand dollars on court proceedings, the only money I had outside of the account my husband blocked me from and in which most of my life's savings are still held.
I was told that the Judge does not meet the victims of child abuse whose future he controls. He does not share my experiences of sitting up at 2am holding my three and a half year old son in my arms whilst he screams "They're going to take me away from Mummy, they're going to take me away from you. I don't want to go away from Mummy". It is a harrowing experience.
I was told by a Barrister that I would lose my son if I did not comply with the contact orders.
I could not stop my son's deterioration. No one, anywhere could help.
The next Court date was more than a month away. This meant that before I could even start to raise the issue of my son's deterioration and my former husband's conduct during contact sessions, my son would have been subjected to a minimum of 17 more contact sessions, or rather 34 hours of intensive one on one contact with his father.
This was the reason I left Sydney and took my son to safety.
Up until this time I followed the proceedings requested of me.
The decision to break all contact with my family and friends, leave my job and our home was not taken lightly. I also have been told that I will receive harsh penalties 'as punishment' for leaving, from the Family Law Court. However I am in my forties, my son is only four, his welfare and future are my priority, not mine. I also understand that the Family Law Court could take my son away from me and give [the father] full custody of [the child], again as 'punishment' for breaking court orders. What people do not understand is that I was losing my son anyway, as far as I can gather, [the father] was proactively attempting to 'create' in my son a repeat of his own abnormalities …
I believe that had I not removed my son from Sydney, the eight hours per week of intensive, one on one, Court Ordered contact during which [the father] continued to threaten him, coupled with giving him gifts and lollies, may have been enough to prevent my son from ever revealing the full extent of what has happened to him. [November affidavit Annexure I - unedited version not tendered at trial but above passages were in the tendered version]