McCredie v Batson

Betty Batson, Her Family and Her Cremation

1. Betty Batson made her last known will on 29 September 2004. In that will she appointed the plaintiff and the defendant as her executrices. Her husband died on 30 July 2011. His funeral was conducted by White Lady Funerals. There was disagreement within the family about the organisation of his funeral. Several family members gave evidence that the plaintiff took too much control of his funeral and it was not conducted in accordance with the wishes of Betty Batson, the deceased. There is some substance to this criticism. The Court accepts there was a residual underlying resentment from family members that the plaintiff was neither inclusive nor consultative on this occasion. That led to the deceased not wanting her funeral to be controlled in the same way as her husband's funeral had been.
2. The deceased's solution to this was to form a firm conviction that she did not want a public funeral but rather just a private cremation that the family might attend. She appears to have thought that this would reduce family tension. But what has emerged instead is a contest about what her wishes were for the disposal of her body after death.
3. The law on this matter is clear. It is fully stated, as it applies in this State, by Young J (as his Honour then was) in Smith v Tamworth City Council (1997) 41 NSWLR 680; (1997) 7 BPR 15,239. Relevantly, his Honour states the law as follows: that a named executor who is ready, willing and able to do so has the right to arrange for the burial of the deceased body; apart from any applicable statute dealing with the disposal of parts of the body, a deceased person has no right to dictate what will happen to his or her body; a person with the privilege of choosing how to bury (or cremate) a body is expected to consult with other stakeholders about the process (including any associated funeral) but is not legally bound to do so; where two or more persons have an equally ranking privilege to arrange the burial, the practicalities of burial without unreasonable delay will decide the issue; cremation is nowadays equivalent to burial; and the holder of a right of burial cannot use his or her right so as to exclude friends and relatives of the deceased expressing their affection for the deceased in a reasonable and appropriate manner, such as by placing flowers on a grave. The Court may take into consideration the deceased's wishes on the subject: see Frith v Schubert [2010] QSC 444 at [57], State of South Australia v Smith (2014) 119 SASR 247; [2014] SASC 64 at [61]; and see also Williams v Williams (1882) 20 Ch D 659.
4. The deceased died on 2 December 2020. Her surviving children were the plaintiff, the defendant, Peter Jasper-Baton, Marilyn Johnston and David Jasper-Batson. For convenience, and without intending any disrespect to any party or family member, the Court will refer to these family members by their first names.
5. The plaintiff, the defendant and the other children agree that they would all like to give effect to the deceased's wishes. They also agree the deceased wanted to be cremated and that she did not want any religious ceremony associated with her cremation. And they agree that her preferences were for something modest and straightforward and that she did not want anything "showy".
6. Beyond that they disagree. The disagreement is about what the deceased wanted preceding her cremation. The deceased's children fall into two camps. The plaintiff and David contend that she wanted a public funeral conducted by White Lady Funerals. The defendant, Peter and Marilyn say that she did not want a public funeral but that she just wanted to be cremated. But among them they differ as to exactly what that means. The defendant for example says that the deceased wanted the cremation organised by Simplicity Funerals and for nothing else to happen other than a bare cremation itself, followed by the placement of her ashes in a niche with her husband's ashes.
7. The deceased's body is presently being kept in mortuary facilities maintained by White Lady Funerals. Both White Lady Funerals and Simplicity Funerals are subsidiaries of Invocare Ltd, a publicly listed company. It is not difficult for her cremation to be arranged by either of White Lady Funerals or Simplicity Funerals. As a practical matter, one of the choices to be made is which of these two funeral directors will conduct the cremation or funeral.
8. The law requires two executors or trustees, such as the plaintiff and the defendant, to act jointly and the law will not recognise their separate acts: Luke v South Kensington Hotel Company (1879) 11 Ch D 121 and Re Mayo [1943] Ch 302; [1943] 2 All ER 440; (1943) 112 LJ Ch 257. If they cannot agree, it is not uncommon for new executors or trustees, who are likely to be able to agree, to be appointed in their place. But there is no time for that in this case. The other alternative is for the Court itself to resolve the differences between the executors or trustees. That is the only available practical course here. Any other alternative would lead to unacceptable delay in the deceased's cremation.
9. By Summons filed on 18 December 2020, the plaintiff applies for an order that the defendant instruct Invocare Ltd trading as White Lady Funerals to take all necessary steps to conduct a funeral and cremation of the deceased and, in the alternative, she seeks a declaration that she is authorized, without the defendant's consent, to direct, engage or instruct Invocare Limited to conduct and take all necessary steps in relation to the funeral and cremation of the deceased.
10. The Court will not grant this relief. It involves the Court ordering one executor to submit to the will of the other. Before making such an order the Court would ordinarily dismiss both executors. Instead, the Court will do its best to give instructions upon the matters upon which the executrices cannot agree and act in their place. This first involves ascertaining the wishes of the deceased, about which there is conflicting evidence, and then considering whether there are any factors which would modify how those wishes should be given effect.
11. The deceased's wishes. The evidence about the wishes of the deceased is in conflict but the Court's findings about the conflicting evidence of the parties allows those wishes to be ascertained reasonably well.
12. The Court accepts the plaintiff's evidence that after her husband's death the deceased said to her that it was "a really lovely service" and that she would like "something similar with White Lady Funerals". But in more recent years, the deceased made clear that any similarity to the public funeral aspect of the service for her husband was not what she wanted. The witnesses vary in their assessment of how simple she wanted her cremation to be. The plaintiff's husband, Mr McCredie, provided evidence which was close to the mark when he recorded her as saying she wanted "a small private funeral with the family". And the deceased's son Peter, a persuasive witness, said, convincingly, that she did not want a "conventional funeral" like her husband.
13. The Court also accepts that the deceased was quite competent and of full understanding when she filled out a statutory declaration with the assistance of Ms Marguerite Sparkes in mid-September this year in which she stated, "I do not wish for a funeral service to be carried out on my passing". That clearly meant she did not want a conventional funeral like the one for her husband. But what does it mean positively? The Court finds, from a range of conflicting evidence, that all she wanted was something simple framed around her cremation. She certainly did not want to compel family members who had not visited her in her final years to be present. But nothing in the evidence suggests that she was prepared to take positive steps to exclude them from a purely family cremation service. The Court concludes that a modest but dignified family gathering constructed around her cremation was what she wanted.
14. Giving effect to the deceased's wishes. Practical considerations arise in giving effect to the deceased's wishes. The defendant's vision for a cremation was very bare. Her idea was that the deceased would be cremated, and her ashes placed in the niche. She had not considered how other people attending the cremation might need to be supported in their grieving in an inclusive atmosphere and where family conflict was minimised. For example, many people attending a burial or cremation gain comfort from the presence of others and from calming music. And it is not possible to conduct a service that is compatible with the most basic norms of human dignity without something being said about the deceased. The defendant had not thought this through. The Court orders must provide something to accommodate these fundamental requirements, in a manner that is still compatible with the deceased's desire not to have a public funeral. It is quite evident from the existing conflict within this family that if any one family member were to speak at the funeral that that may cause aggravation and resentment to other family members. That can be done by someone with empathy in a neutral position.
15. The parties have limited their choice of funeral directors down to Simplicity Funerals and White Lady Funerals. Both funeral service providers will conduct a simple cremation ceremony. Whether a simple cremation service is less expensive than the standard quotations for both companies is unclear on the materials before the Court. But the least expensive funeral quoted for Simplicity Funerals is $3,995 and the most expensive is $7,995. At the top end of its services, Simplicity Funerals overlaps with the basic funeral provided by White Lady Funerals at $7,976. But the range of service provided by White Lady Funerals rises to $13,820.50.
16. The Court will direct that instructions be given for the cremation to be conducted by White Lady Funerals. The reason for that is that the Court accepts that to the extent the deceased has expressed any preference for the person to conduct her cremation, the evidence supports her having some preference for White Lady Funerals. Although it was some time ago, the Court does not accept the deceased's preference in that regard changed. The Court does not accept the defendant's evidence that the deceased expressed a recent preference for Simplicity Funerals. The Court finds the defendant's evidence that the deceased expressed a preference for Simplicity Funerals to be improbable as it lacked any context.
17. The other reason that instructions should be given to White Lady Funerals is that their resourcing of the cremation service will be greater than that of Simplicity Funerals. The very conflict that has arisen between these parties means that higher resourcing levels and judgment are needed by the funeral director when conducting the cremation. The Court's orders place a significant degree of responsibility upon the professional judgment of the senior person who will be conducting the cremation. With such a divided family, someone under the authority of the Court's orders who can immediately command respect, must conduct the cremation. This is required for the process to move ahead honouring the deceased and providing comfort and reconciliation to those family members who are attending and avoiding spontaneous conflict within the family. It is to be expected that such professional judgment is more likely to be available at a slightly higher priced funeral service provider.
18. Good judgment will be required to ensure the conduct of the cremation service is done in conformity with the Court's orders which are reasonably complex and require a degree of diplomacy and attention to detail in their execution. The Court has gone into more detail than it normally would to minimise unexpected disputation within the family in relation to the cremation.
19. Whilst it is accepted the deceased wanted modesty and simplicity in the conduct of her funeral, the conflict between the family itself indicates that complete simplicity cannot be achieved. But that does not mean that the most expensive White Lady Funerals should be required in the circumstances. In the Court's judgment, the intermediate level of service provided by White Lady Funerals is appropriate, which is cited as costing a maximum of $11,145. The services to be provided have been asterisked in Exhibit C. The fact that what will be provided here is a relatively modest cremation service, rather than a public funeral, may mean that this intermediate figure should be discounted to a degree in discussions between the executrices and White Lady Funerals. But that is a matter for negotiation. The Court's orders should not be taken as indicating that that figure cannot be discounted.
20. In order to give perspective to the choice between White Lady Funerals and Simplicity Funerals, the Court ordered the legal representatives of the parties to provide an estimate of their costs to date in this litigation. The plaintiff's costs, including solicitors and counsel, were $29,000. The defendant's costs of Mr Kent were just under $21,000. The Court does not record these figures in order to criticise the lawyers in this case. The Court has received a high degree of assistance from the lawyers on both sides in what was an urgently conducted proceeding. These fees are reasonable in the circumstances.
21. But the figures illustrate that the parties have been prepared to spend $50,000 on legal expenses to argue, in part, about the difference between two funeral companies where the substantive difference between the intermediate charges is of the order of about $5,000. Of course, wider issues are at stake here than mere money. But the Court's decision to instruct White Lady Funerals is hardly disproportionate to the party's willingness to expend funds on this dispute.
22. The Court's orders below deal with several detailed matters that have not been fully explained in these reasons due to the lack of time. But the Court has raised many of them during argument between the parties at the hearing.