AA v Registrar of Births Deaths and Marriages and BB
[2011] NSWDC 100
At a glance
Source factsCourt
District Court of NSW
Decision date
2011-08-02
Before
Ms J
Source
Original judgment source is linked above.
Judgment (7 paragraphs)
The Issues 1The issue to be resolved is whether the plaintiff, AA, should be registered under the Births Deaths and Marriages Registration Act 1995, (NSW) (BDMA) as a parent of a child I shall call AB. The case concerns a child born to a lesbian couple, of whom AA was once one, resulting from artificial insemination of the birth mother, AC, using sperm donated for that purpose by the second defendant, BB. BB has been registered under the BDMA as the child's father, for many years. If AA's application is successful, his name will have to be removed from the birth register (the Register). Only two people may be named as parents on the Register at any one time. (To preserve the anonymity of AB I am using pseudonyms). 2The first defendant (the Registrar), who has an obligation to keep a register (the Register) of birth details, filed a submitting appearance. BB opposed the orders sought. He has had a close and loving relationship with AB all of her life. So have his mother and his sister. Currently there are consent orders in force in the Family Court giving him contact rights to her. Over the years he has contributed tens of thousands of dollars to AB's upkeep and has performed acts of great generosity to AC. He sees his position as one of father to AB in all relevant ways.
The Background 3From about September 1994 until April 2000 AA was in a lesbian relationship with AB's birth mother, AC. The couple decided to have a child using donated sperm. They placed an advertisement in the Sydney Star Observer in June 2000. The advertisement said inter alia: "Lesbian couple seeks donor, view to being "uncle" figure to child. No financial obligation. If interested and would like to talk more about details, contact us..." 4At about the same time, BB placed an advertisement in a publication called "Lesbians on the Loose" (LOTL). The text of his advertisement said: "Sperm Donour (sic) Professional male mid 40's would like to meet lesbian lady to view of producing a child. Full health details available involvement and financial assistance offered." 5AA and AC responded to BB's advertisement. Meetings later occurred between the three of them. There was some discussion about the role each would play in the baby's life. This was not the subject of exploration at the hearing, but it was not disputed by AA and AC that BB told them he wanted some involvement, and especially wanted his mother to know he had a child. 6From time to time over the next few months BB went to the home of AA and AC and donated sperm. The sperm was inserted into AC by syringe. After three or four attempts, AC became pregnant. All three adults had an amicable relationship at that time. After AC became pregnant, BB was invited by AA and AC to their home so he could listen to the baby's heartbeat. He was informed of her birth as soon as she was born and he visited her the next day and brought his extended family to see her over the following week. He was invited to visit whenever he chose. 7BB contributed substantial sums for midwifery consultations, including for birth costs. He paid for AC to have naturopathic and chiropractic consultations, and shiatsu massages. According to the unchallenged figures in evidence, by a time shortly after the baby's birth he had contributed close to $10,000 for such expenses. After AB's birth he paid $150 per week for her maintenance for some years. 8AB's birth was registered in August 2001. Her birth mother, AC, was registered as the mother. Although there was a position on the registration form for the name of the father to appear, that section was left blank. At that time there was no legislative provision in New South Wales permitting registration of more than one female as a child's parent. Explaining in these proceedings what had happened at that time AC said in paragraph 24 of her affidavit of 27 January 2011: "I left the spot for 'father' blank. It was not possible to list a second female parent in NSW at that time. If it had been possible, I would have listed [AA] as [AB's] other parent." 9Within months of the birth, BB's relationship with AA and AC had ceased to be amicable. In 2002 BB applied to the Family Court for contact orders. On 14 April 2003 consent orders were made in the Family Court permitting BB to see AB for two hours every second weekend, and each year on Father's Day. The precise basis on which the Family Court had jurisdiction to hear the application was not explored before me. But Ms Graycar drew my attention to s 65C(c) Family Law Act 1975 which permits "any ...person concerned with the care, welfare or development of the child" to apply for a parenting order. I infer the consent order was such an order. The Family Law Act goes to some pains to deal with the status of a sperm donor. Section 60H(1)(d) of the Family Law Act 1975 provides that where a child is born as a result of what it calls an "artificial conception procedure" and the mother is in a de facto relationship with another person (called there "the other intended parent") who consents to the procedure, and where the donor of sperm also consents to the procedure, a child born of the procedure does not thereby become the "child" of the sperm donor. (In that context the legislation calls the sperm "genetic material".) Thus although it is relied on by BB, I do not consider the fact that the order was made assists to promote his cause in the context of this case. 10The consent orders made no reference to the issue of whose names should appear as parents on the Register. However in paragraph 27 of AC's affidavit she said this: "In 2002 I agreed to [BB's] request to go on [AB's] birth certificate because I was advised by our solicitor at the time that it was the best course of action to settle the Family Court proceedings for contact that [BB] had initiated." 11In fact, BB's name was placed on the Register as AB's father late in 2002. Both AC and BB signed a statutory declaration at that time giving BB's name, address, occupation, and date of birth in a section called "Father's Particulars". In her affidavit of 1 February 2011 AA said in paragraph 33: "As [BB] was the sperm donor and AB was conceived through assisted conception, my understanding at the time that [AC] and [BB] arranged to include [BB's] name on the birth certificate was that it was intended as a purely symbolic gesture without any legal effect." 12AA and AC lived, and raised AB, together, until April 2006, when their relationship broke down. Thereafter they shared custody of her on a week on and week off basis. 13In 2007 there were further proceedings in the Family Court. Again matters were resolved by consent orders. This time the orders reflected arrangements made between AA and AC to share parental responsibility for AB. They also allowed an increase in the time AB was to spend with BB. 14In 2008 the law of New South Wales was amended to permit two women who had had a child when in a relationship together to have both of their names placed on the Register as the parents of the child. The legislation was retrospective. Thus although her relationship with AC had broken down over two years before, AA became eligible to have her name listed as a second parent on the Register. So that her name could be placed on the Register, she made an application to the Registrar. The Registrar took the view that only two people could appear as parents on the Register at the one time. Thus he considered that for AC to have her name placed on the Register, BB's name would have to be removed. For that to occur she needed his consent or a court order. 15By a letter of 25 February 2010 the plaintiff wrote to BB inter alia as follows: "Due to the changes in the laws regarding the legal status of the non--biological mother last July in New South Wales, I am now able to insert my name onto [AB's] birth certificate as her legal parent in addition to [AC's]. To do this you would need to agree to your name being removed. The birth certificate is a document that explains parentage . It is not a certificate outlining genetic inheritance . By asking you to remove your name... I am not wishing for your relationship with [AB] to change in any way. You always will be her biological donor, and you will still maintain your relationship and spend time with her as you do currently. All it means is that my rights as... parent will be correctly represented on her certificate. ... I reiterate, this is not a reflection in any way on your relationship with [AB], but is merely putting in place what should have been written when she was born. [AB] will still continue to foster her relationship with you in a way that she currently does." (The emphases were inserted by AA) 16By letter of 2 March 2010 BB replied inter alia as follows: "I do sympathise with your position something that I feel I have never received from you on my position however I am not going to go into that now. In relation to me being [AB's] biological donor, I take offence of this description as far as I'm concerned I am and always will be [her] father ... ... When I agreed to have a child with [AC] and you as her then partner we did not have in writing an agreement on any of these matters and it was a wait and see approach, if you can remember back then it was all about fulfilling the dream of the 3 of us not just you. I am aware that you were looking for a uncle figure to your child as per your advertisement in the Star Observer however you always appear to overlook what I was looking for in my advertisement in Lotal, I was not looking to be an uncle figure but to have a child with a lesbian or a straight lady, there was not going to be any written contract with lawyers on what involvement I would or would not have it was going to be a matter of Trust. In short I am not going to have my name removed from [AB's] birth certificate and I think you have a bloody hide to ask me seeing the lengthy and very expensive legal action I took to have it put on there eight years ago... I do acknowledge that you and [AC] are doing a wonderful job on parenting [AB] but I am sure I can do just as good a job if this matter is taken to court. As a sign of good faith I am prepared to acknowledge your position and if it is possible to have three names put on [AB's] birth certificate I will agree to this but I will never agree to have my name removed. [AB] is my daughter just as much as she is yours and [AC's]..." 17In an affidavit of 20 May 2011 prepared for these proceedings BB said that he was aware someone who had been in a lesbian relationship with the birth mother when a child was born could have her name placed on the Register but he understood that to be the position only where the donor was anonymous. He conceded the question of whether his name should be on the Register had not been discussed before the birth. He went on to say that he would leave it to the court to decide whether "my daughter is entitled to have me on her birth certificate". He said he is proud of his name and heritage and wants "my daughter to have the same respect for her biological heritage that I do." 18On 18 March 2010 the plaintiff made an application to the Registrar to have her name added as a parent on the Register. By letter of 24 March 2010 to her solicitor, the Registrar pointed out that under Part 4, Clause 17, of the BDMA he could not add registrable information to a child's birth registration about the identity of a woman as a parent without the consent of the person identified on the Register as the father for the removal of his particulars from the Register or unless the court ordered the removal of his name. He also told AA's solicitor that he had received correspondence from BB saying he did not consent to having his details removed from the Register. 19On 29 March 2011 the plaintiff commenced these proceedings by way of summons seeking the following orders: "(a) under Schedule 3 clause 17(4) of the [ BDMA ] that the name of [BB] be removed from the birth register; and under S 19 and Schedule 3 clause 17 (2) that the name of [AA] be added to the birth register of [AB]" 20When the proceedings were commenced, BB was not made a party. On 29 March 2011 he was joined as a second defendant. The Registrar, who had been the only defendant until that point, then filed a submitting appearance pursuant to UCPR 6.11. Thereafter the plaintiff filed an amended summons naming BB as second defendant. Initially there were some concerns on the part of the Registrar that the plaintiff might seek costs against him. So solicitors on his behalf filed submissions concerning costs. When the matter proceeded before me on 2 August, Ms Graycar, who with Professor Millbank appeared for the plaintiff, informed me she had instructions not to seek any costs orders against either defendant, regardless of the outcome. 21When the matter proceeded on 2 August 2011, only AA and BB took an active part.