Factual Background
6Until the middle of 2010, the plaintiff and Essie lived in the family home at Warilla. They have four surviving children. The defendant is the eldest. He does not get on with his siblings. In cross- examination, he said that he had not spoken to them "in 20 years", although it seems clear that that was an exaggeration, since he deposes to a number of conversations with them in recent years concerning their parents.
7In 2008, Essie had a partial stroke and was diagnosed as suffering from the early stages of senile dementia. From that time, the plaintiff cared for Essie although he himself had a number of health issues. He was and remains on a TPI (totally and permanently incapacitated) pension as a result of anxiety and related conditions arising from his war service. He also has problems with his joints and, at least from the beginning of 2010, has walked with a frame.
8In July 2010, Essie was diagnosed with bowel and liver cancer. Her bowel cancer was operated on on 31 July 2010 and she was discharged on 18 August 2010, when she returned home where the plaintiff continued to care for her.
9In September 2010, while taking Essie to the doctors, the plaintiff tripped and fell down some escalators. The plaintiff originally suggested that that occurred on 22 September 2010, but I accept the defendant's evidence that it occurred on 9 September 2010. The plaintiff says he broke his femur then. The defendant, on the other hand, says that the plaintiff was taken to hospital after the fall, discharged himself, and then went home where he had another fall and that is when he broke his femur as well as tearing tendons in both shoulders. In any event, the plaintiff was admitted to hospital where he remained until 13 October 2010.
10Initially, the defendant and his siblings took it in turns looking after Essie while the plaintiff was in hospital. However, those arrangements involved substantial travelling and Essie expressed a desire to remain at the defendant's home, which is what happened.
11The plaintiff says that while he was in hospital he had a conversation with the defendant in words to the following effect:
Son:"My wife has been taking Mum to town every day.
[He then showed me some photographs taken in the Sydney city area]
When you think of it you will have to go into a hospital or a home. As I have told you before you are not well enough to look after yourselves. Going into a home will cost you a lot of money, between $235,000 and $250,000 each.
When they get you in there you won't be able to go out and drive your own car. You will be locked in a room all day. All you will have is a chair to sit on, an electric light over your bed and a TV. That is all you will get."
Me:"We can't do that. You know how much money is in my account $800,000. If I have to pay that money into a home we will lose it. There will be nothing left."
Son:"You can come and live at my place. We'll look after you until you die."
Me:"I am prepared to give you the $400,000 off the top provided you look after Mum and I comfortably until we die."
Son:"That will be OK, we will work on that."
Me:"If you are happy with that arrangement so am I because I think you will look after your Mum and I."
In cross-examination, however, the plaintiff said that he could not remember where or when the conversation took place.
12The defendant denies that the conversation in the terms alleged by the plaintiff took place, or that any conversation occurred in which the plaintiff offered to pay the defendant $400,000.00 in exchange for the defendant agreeing to look after him and Essie. The defendant says that the plaintiff asked whether he could stay with the defendant when he was discharged "until I get my strength back". The defendant agreed. He says that, following that conversation, he asked the plaintiff's doctor to delay his discharge until 13 October 2010, so that he had sufficient time to prepare his house for the plaintiff. The defendant lives in a substantial two-storey house. However, the bedrooms and bathrooms are upstairs and it seems clear that the plaintiff would not, at least initially, be able to get up the stairs. The defendant, therefore, took steps to prepare a downstairs room to be used by his parents as a bedroom, installed some washing facilities in an adjacent laundry and built a new shower and toilet in a downstairs workshop. The defendant also installed timber access ramps, cleared obstacles that would hinder movement and installed a television in a downstairs room for his parents' use. At about that time, the defendant says that the plaintiff said to him:
I don't want to be a burden on you financially for looking after mum. I am going to give you $5,000.
The plaintiff then gave the defendant a cheque. The plaintiff's bank records show that that cheque was paid on 4 October 2010.
13The plaintiff also gave the defendant a cheque for $5,900 on 6 October 2010. That cheque was given to the defendant to reimburse him for costs he incurred in preparing his house to accommodate his parents and for the costs of a wheelchair he had purchased for the plaintiff.
14The defendant denies that, at that stage, he thought that there was a real prospect that the plaintiff and Essie would stay with him for a long time. He says that his expectation was that they would return home when the plaintiff had recovered.
15The plaintiff and the defendant give quite different accounts of circumstances in which the $400,000.00 was paid.
16According to the defendant, the plaintiff told him on 15 October 2010 that he was going to give him and his wife some money to show his appreciation for what they were doing for the plaintiff and Essie, although at that stage there was no mention of the amount. Subsequently, on 20 October 2010, the defendant drove the plaintiff and Essie to their home in Warilla to collect some personal things. The plaintiff then asked the defendant to drive him and Essie to the local branch of St.George Bank. The defendant waited with his mother while the plaintiff transacted some business. The plaintiff then gave the defendant a bank cheque for $400,000 made payable to him and his wife. The defendant was taken aback and expressed gratitude for the cheque. In response, he says the plaintiff said:
We really appreciate what you and Chris [the defendant's wife] have done.
When they returned home, the defendant says the plaintiff had a conversation with his wife in words to the following effect:
Plaintiff"Did you see what Robert [that is, the defendant] got?
Chris:"yes"
Plaintiff:"Well its [sic] half yours I can't thank you enough for what you did for Essie and I"
Chris:"No just give to Robert, He's your son"
Plaintiff:"No it's half yours"
In cross-examination, the defendant insisted that these passages accurately recorded the substance of what the plaintiff said - and that, in particular, the gift was expressed to have been for past services.
17The defendant says that he deposited the cheque into his and his wife's account on 22 October 2010. Later, on 9 November 2010, the defendant says that the plaintiff said to him that the $400,000 was his inheritance and the plaintiff explained that, under the terms of his will, his four children were to inherit his estate in equal shares, which he estimated to be approximately $1,650,000. In a letter the defendant wrote to the plaintiff on 19 June 2011, the defendant said that that conversation occurred in late December, but in cross-examination he said that that was an error. He says that he fixed the time of the conversation by reference to an electrical storm which he can recall at the time of the conversation. According to him, the bureau of meteorology's website discloses that the only electrical storm during the relevant period was on 9 November 2010. In the light of that conversation, the defendant in his defence undertakes to the court that he will disclaim any entitlement he has under the plaintiff's will and he will not make a claim for any further provision out of the plaintiff's estate.
18The plaintiff's initial account of the payment of the $400,000 was that, about a week after he was discharged, the defendant took him to see a local GP for what he understood to be a dementia test. He says that when he returned home, at the defendant's request, he wrote out a cheque payable to the defendant and his wife for $400,000. He then accompanied the defendant to the defendant's bank, where the defendant deposited the cheque. However, he resiled from this account in cross-examination and said:
He got the money, that is the main thing. That was the main thing. The manner and describing how he got it, I can't remember.
The plaintiff denies that he ever said that the cheque was the defendant's inheritance.
19Considerable friction developed while the plaintiff and Essie were living with the defendant and his wife. Essie's dementia was progressing. The plaintiff says she was not happy living in the defendant's house, although that is denied by the defendant. It appears that Essie and the plaintiff argued frequently. According to the plaintiff, one of the reasons they did so was that Essie wanted to return home to Warilla whereas he was willing to remain living at the defendant's home. On a couple of occasions, Essie left the house unaccompanied. On one of those occasions, the defendant's wife had to retrieve her and on another the police were called. According to the defendant, the main reason they argued was that Essie was unhappy with the plaintiff. There was also at least some friction between the plaintiff and the defendant. One cause of that friction was the fact that the defendant objected to the plaintiff driving while he was taking Serepax.
20Things came to a head on 18 January 2011. The plaintiff and Essie had argued about what Essie should wear and whether they should go for a drive. In any event, they got into the plaintiff's car. The plaintiff reversed out of the drive and started heading down the street. Essie said something to him which caused him to head back home. He drove down the street and into the driveway at an excessive speed. He swerved to miss the garage door and drove into pillars supporting the roof of the verandah and ended up a short distance from where the defendant was sitting. The plaintiff, somewhat implausibly, says that his foot became stuck between the accelerator and the brake, that consequently he could not stop and that he swerved to miss the garage door because behind it was a new vehicle that had just been bought by the defendant. In my opinion, it is more likely that the plaintiff drove back to the house at excessive speed in anger and then could not stop in time.
21The plaintiff says that, following the accident, the defendant and his wife were abusive towards the plaintiff and Essie which caused them to be very upset, although that is denied by the defendant. The plaintiff says that that night the defendant and his wife went to the local club and he and Essie, after discussing the matter, decided that they would leave the following morning. They then went to bed. The following morning they got up very early, caught a bus to the train station and two trains to Moss Vale, where they stayed for a time with one of their daughters before moving back home to Warilla. The plaintiff says that following the accident and what the defendant had said to them, they decided they could not remain at the defendant's home. The only explanation the defendant could offer for his parents sudden departure was that the plaintiff left out of a sense of guilt because of the damage he had done to the house.
22The defendant had no contact with the plaintiff or Essie until 27 January 2011, when the plaintiff rang the defendant demanding that the $400,000 be returned. Since that time, Essie has died, although neither the plaintiff nor any of the defendant's siblings had told the defendant of that fact. The defendant says he was not aware that that had happened until he was served with the statement of claim. Understandably, the defendant was upset by that fact.