Mrs Bond claimed that when Andrew was seeking to have him [her] rub his penis, she said to him: "No Andrew. No more."
70 Mrs Bond confirmed, in her affidavit evidence, that there had been occasions when there had been a move towards sexually inappropriate conduct, albeit, instigated by her son. This was not, as asserted by the appellant, inconsistent with the evidence of Mr Andrew Bond, who stated at various times, that he encouraged the conduct because "it felt good." The issue before the Commissioner was not who instigated the conduct, but rather, whether the alleged conduct occurred. Given the appellant's own evidence that there had been instances where Mr Andrew Bond was seeking contact of a sexual nature when the appellant was kissing him goodnight, in my opinion, the Commissioner was entitled to rely upon this evidence as partial corroboration of Mr Andrew Bond's allegations about a sexual, or semi-sexual relationship between himself and Mrs Bond. The fact that the appellant denied that she responded to the encouragement did not, in itself, preclude the Commissioner from drawing certain inferences about the nature of the relationship that existed between the appellant and her son.
71 I find that the conclusions reached by Connor C in respect of the alleged "night time conduct" were open to him.
Unrestricted access to Andrew Bond's children and the trip to Adelaide
72 It was common ground that, until at least October 2005, the appellant had unrestricted access to Andrew Bond's three children. That included having them sleep over at her home. It was also common ground that in April 2006, the appellant took Andrew Bond's son, Joshua, then aged 7, to Adelaide for four days. That occurred with Andrew Bond's approval.
73 His evidence was that he restricted his mother's access to his children from October 2006. His evidence in relation to allowing his mother to take his son to Adelaide was that he "was just hoping like hell that it wouldn't happen to my seven year old son.
74 Mr Moorhouse submitted that the fact that the appellant had unrestricted access to Andrew Bond's children until at least October 2005 and that the appellant was permitted to take Andrew Bond's son to Adelaide for four days in April 2006, is entirely inconsistent with Andrew Bond's evidence that the alleged conduct occurred. Counsel contended that the Commissioner appeared to accept this at [54] of his decision, but that he did not subsequently explain why he had dismissed it, or the extent to which he had given it any weight, in determining that the alleged conduct occurred.
75 Mr Moorhouse submitted that, properly considered, this evidence also created a compelling inference that the alleged conduct did not occur.
76 It is to be remembered that at the time Mr Andrew Bond agreed to let his mother take his son to Adelaide, he had not revealed to anyone the appellant's alleged conduct. His evidence was that he was continuing to suppress what had occurred and was still grappling with it in his mind. Critically, Mr Andrew Bond's wife, who also gave evidence, did not know about the allegations at the time of the Adelaide trip and she was a co-decision-maker in permitting her son to undertake the Adelaide trip. Furthermore, in my view, the criticism of the Commissioner's finding by the appellant ignores the fact that Mr Andrew Bond's son was only 6 or 7 years of age at the time of the Adelaide trip, whereas the alleged conduct involving Mr Andrew Bond occurred in his post pubescent early to late teens.
The exposure incident
77 One of the factors which influenced the Commissioner in making an adverse finding in respect of the appellant's credit was her account of an incident which occurred when Mr Andrew Bond was about 23, and shortly after he had been married. Her evidence was that in or about 1995, Mr Andrew Bond came to her house and exposed himself to her, which caused her to tell him to go home to his wife.
78 The Commissioner concluded at [61] of his decision, that the appellant's evidence of this incident suggested earlier indiscretions by her. Mr Moorhouse contended that there was no evidence to support such a suggestion, and submitted that the Commissioner erred in proceeding on the basis that the appellant's evidence of the exposure incident somehow cast doubt on her credibility. This submission overlooked the evidence of the appellant that on two occasions when Andrew Bond was a teenager whilst sitting on a lounge in their home, he took her hand and placed it on his groin.
79 The final reason given (at [61]) for the Commissioner rejecting the appellant's credit, related to a separate incident when Mr Andrew Bond attended his mother's house and he alleged that she performed oral sex on him. There is no issue that the appellant and the respondent gave evidence about two different incidents involving a visit by Andrew Bond to his mother's house some time in 1995. Mrs Bond denied the alleged oral sex incident in her affidavit evidence and under cross-examination. The Commissioner did not determine the oral sex incident. In my view, it is unsurprising that the Commissioner did not proceed to make a finding in respect of this allegation. Clearly, the proceedings were traumatic enough. A positive finding in respect of this allegation would have been horrendous for the parties. The Commissioner was mindful that the evidence as to the exposure incident was about a completely separate incident and concluded that this incident, described by Mrs Bond, suggested some earlier indiscretions by Mr Andrw Bond. In light of the findings that the Commissioner had reached (at [60] - [61]), such an inference was reasonably open to him.
Credibility of Mrs Bond and Mr Andrew Bond
80 Mr Moorhouse submitted that the Commissioner erred in failing to have regard, or sufficient regard to the inconsistencies and discrepancies in Mr Andrew Bond's evidence and in accepting his evidence regarding the alleged conduct. Counsel pointed to inconsistencies regarding the alleged conduct; Andrew Bond's failure to give details of the alleged "night time conduct", for example, whether he was sharing a room and who was in the room with him at the time; whether he had pyjamas on or not, and how the bedroom lights came to be off when the alleged conduct occurred. Counsel submitted Mr Andrew Bond repeatedly changed his evidence about the order in which he disclosed the alleged conduct to various persons, and Mr Andrew Bond's record of dishonesty in relation to sexual matters.
81 Mr Andrew Bond, quite fairly, acknowledged that he had got the order wrong of who he told about the sexual conduct at various times. In my view, nothing turns on Mr Andrew Bond being mistaken about this issue, or that he may have engaged in extra marital affairs. These matters, in my view, are not critical to a determination as to the honesty of his evidence regarding the allegations.
82 Mr Moorhouse submitted that the Commissioner fell into error in the reasoning he adopted to conclude that the appellant did not present as a credible witness. I have earlier set out the Commissioner's reasons for this conclusion. The assessment of the appellant's credibility by the Commissioner is criticised by the appellant because the Commissioner made reference to the opinion of others (Jeffrey Bond, Pastors Mr Timothy McMenamin and Mr Peter Jones), who shared the Commissioner's ultimate assessment of the appellant.
83 The Commissioner acknowledged (at [60]) that the views held by the various witnesse, were concurrent with his own assessment of the appellant, gained from his assessment of the appellant during the hearing and not the witnesses experiences. The Commissioner set out (at [61]) the factors that had particularly influenced him and made no reference to the views of the other witnesses.
84 Mr Moorhouse also pointed to the fact that the appellant denied all of the allegations in the proceedings below; the rejection of the appellant's credibility on the basis of Mr Andrew Bond's evidence; the rejection of the appellant's credibility on the basis of a misapprehension of her evidence about the bedtime hugging incidents; the rejection of the appellant's credibility on the basis of drawing unsupported conclusions from her evidence of the exposure incident, and the appellant's use of "I do not recall" and similar phrases during interviews with the investigation by the Department, all of which were relied upon by the Commissioner, thereby leading him into error. In light of the authorities to which I have earlier referred, I conclude that the findings reached by the Commissioner about the credibility of the appellant and Mr Andrew Bond were open to him on the evidence and the way in which the evidence was given by the respective individuals during the course of the hearing.
85 In this regard, I make brief reference to the evidence of the appellant during cross-examination.
86 There was clear evidence that in October 2006, Mr Andrew Bond went to see his mother and a conversation took place. Mr Andrew Bond's evidence was that he commenced the conversation by saying words to the effect "Mum, I've been thinking about the stuff from my childhood, you used to nibble my ear and rub my penis." Mrs Bond agreed that her son came to see her and a discussion took place but that he did not give her any specific details of what occurred. Mrs Bond was asked in respect of this issue: