Facts
4The offender and his wife met in Poland in 1981. They married in Austria in January 1982 and migrated to Australia on 24 March 1982. The following year their son, Daniel, was born. Danuta returned to work as a registered nurse not long after Daniel's birth. Their daughter, Angela, was born in 1988. When Daniel was seven, he was injured in a car accident as a result of which he suffered hemiplegia and brain damage. At that time Danuta stopped working for a period to look after Daniel and to assist in his rehabilitation.
5The household was dependent on Danuta's income as a registered nurse, but the offender nonetheless resented her working and feared that she was having an affair with one of her male colleagues. There is no evidence that his suspicions had any basis. Danuta's repeated assurances that she loved him and was faithful to him did not assuage his concerns. He complained to others, including friends and neighbours, about her presumed infidelity.
6The offender was, at times, tyrannical. He threw food that he considered to be insufficiently hot and physically assaulted Danuta when things did not go his way. He blamed her if he lost at gambling or crashed the car. He also held her responsible for Daniel's accident on the grounds that if she had been a diligent mother it would not have happened.
7He was obsessed with his own sexual fulfilment. He used pornography and sought out prostitutes to satisfy his needs. At times he tried to find a permanent substitute for Danuta and courted at least one woman, Gina, with a view to a long-term relationship. He regarded his inability to maintain an erection as proof of her infidelity.
8He either deliberately refused to recognise, or was incapable of appreciating, the hypocrisy of his insisting that Danuta be not only faithful, but also confined within the home and chaperoned on journeys to the shops and to work, while he was regularly unfaithful to her and came and went at will.
9He became fixated about a particular date in 1996 when he telephoned Danuta at work and she was not available to speak with him. He often reverted, in their regular arguments, to the topic of her whereabouts on that night. In 2006 the offender insisted that his wife no longer work night shifts and that she work on-call for an agency to minimise her opportunity to form a relationship. The offender was keen to find evidence of infidelity. He set traps for his wife by leaving marks on the surface of Vaseline in a jar in the bathroom. When he perceived that the marks had been disturbed, he charged her with deceiving him. He found an old hairpiece in her wardrobe and accused her of buying it and wearing it with another man.
10He regarded Danuta as a chattel and a servant for his exclusive use. The offender commandeered Danuta's income as well as her body. He not only used force to control her, but he also humiliated her to subjugate her. He inculcated such fear of his retaliation in Danuta and the children that they rarely contacted police or otherwise revealed his conduct to the outside world. When neighbours called the police, the offender, his wife and their children by and large adhered to the code of silence that the offender imposed on them and told the officers who came to the door that there was no need for them to intervene.
11On occasions Danuta had to have time off work because of bruising or injury, but where, as was more often the case, any physical marks could be concealed by clothing and make-up she continued to work notwithstanding the assaults.
12I am satisfied that the offender appreciated the extent of the violence he inflicted on his wife in the course of their marriage. He knew that it was unacceptable for a man to assault a woman. His denials of violence towards her, such as in the following passage, were deliberately dishonest:
Q. Did you punch her?
A. No, never. Just defend myself from, ever attack me many times, and I only just grabbed her hand, push her backwards, or if she start swinging her hands and I protect myself, fling back, and she's possible, maybe hit herself like that, because of my swing my hand, and I never ever ever attack her, never bash her up, never ever in my life. Only I defend myself.
13On one occasion, over a decade before he killed Danuta, the offender required his wife to walk several times around the swimming pool of their Punchbowl home in the heat of the day, carrying a carpet cleaning machine. Angela, who was then a young child, showed her support for her mother by accompanying her as she trudged around the pool. The offender, the instigator and spectator of his wife's degradation, screamed abuse at her.
14The couple socialised with other Polish immigrants in their early years in Sydney but, at least from the time Angela was an infant, the offender became angry with his wife if she brought friends home or had any independent social life. As time went on, their social contact diminished. The offender's outbursts embarrassed onlookers and humiliated Danuta. The offender obstructed social contact, as he was reluctant to allow others into what he saw as his domain.
15In 2002 the Gierczynski family sold the house at Punchbowl. The offender took control of the entire proceeds of sale and used the money, together with the proceeds of his carpet cleaning business, for share trading and gambling. A new house at Chipping Norton was purchased in Daniel's name with damages he had received by way of settlement following the motor vehicle accident in which he had been injured as an infant.
16Daniel, who could not work by reason of his physical and intellectual disabilities, was usually at home. He worked out in a gym constructed in the garage. As he grew older and stronger, he adopted the role of his mother's protector and would intervene to stop his father assaulting her, although Daniel rarely used force himself.
17Danuta considered leaving the offender but was fearful that, if she did so, he would kill her, as he had often threatened to do. She contemplated suicide as a means of escape. Two suicide notes were in evidence, one dated 27 October 2004 and the other dated 13 August 2010. She confided her fears to those of her work colleagues who had become friends. She was, however, unwilling to move out of the house because it was Daniel's home. She felt that Daniel still needed her support and attention because of his disability. She also believed that there was nowhere she could go where she would be safe from her husband.
18On the night of the offender's birthday in October 2005, he went out, became intoxicated and crashed his car on the way home. On his return he punched Danuta in the head and gave her a black eye, on the ground that if she had taken him out that night it would not have happened. Danuta, Daniel and Angela, who was just about to sit her final HSC exams, decided to leave together and take Danuta to a hospital for treatment for her injuries.
19Police interviewed Danuta at Liverpool Hospital for the purpose of applying for an apprehended violence order (AVO). Some time later she attended the police station and withdrew her application. After staying with friends for a day or two, the three returned to the Chipping Norton house and peace was temporarily restored.
20In 2006 the offender took the first of several videos of his wife. His technique was to provoke her to lose her temper and then film her when she was enraged, in the mistaken belief that this would provide some "evidence" that would protect him in the future against any conviction if he were ever charged with assaulting her. He secreted the videos behind air-conditioning vents in the house. They were not discovered when search warrants were executed on the house at Chipping Norton. Their existence was revealed to police only when the offender's former solicitors disclosed their whereabouts. The videos depict Danuta screaming at the offender and, at times, holding a knife or knives.
21The offender's voice, as recorded on the video films, was at all times calm. He retained his grasp of the video camera throughout. Even when Danuta was holding a knife or knives, he did not appear to be in any fear of attack. I find that Danuta held knives on these occasions because she was fearful that the offender would attack her. The offender's motive for creating the videos is revealed from the following commentary, addressed to his wife, which he recorded on one of his videos:
"Court will take into account that I have been always calm all my life talk quietly, while you are provoking me, screaming, running with a knife, stabbing."
22At the end of 2006, the offender met a woman called Gina, whom he initially hoped would be a substitute for Danuta and "look after" him. He travelled to the United States with Gina, leaving Danuta at home with the two children. While the offender was away he rarely contacted his family. When Gina did not fulfil his expectations he came back to Danuta at the end of January 2007. He travelled with Gina to Malaysia in March 2007. He returned alone after eight days.
23On the day of his homecoming he took photographs of Danuta's genitalia because he was convinced that she had been unfaithful to him while he was away with Gina. He insisted that a gynaecologist resolve the matter. On that day he also made one of the videos referred to above. The video showed that Danuta was very upset by the affair and outraged that he had photographed her private parts. She accused him on the video of turning her into a mad woman.
24On 4 November 2007, Danuta called the police after the offender grabbed a knife and pointed it at her. The offender was arrested and an interim AVO was ordered. In a statement made that evening at Liverpool Police Station, the offender referred to the argument on 26 March 2007, which the offender had videotaped, and alleged that both his wife and his son had run after him with long knives. He also stated that this had occurred again on the evening of 4 November 2007 and that he had been about to call the police, when Danuta had pre-empted him by telephoning the police herself. I do not accept his version.
25Before the hearing of the application for a final order, the offender got Daniel and Danuta to prepare false statements in which they accepted full responsibility for what had occurred on 4 November 2007. As a result, the charge for assault against the offender was dismissed and the interim AVO was revoked.
26In early 2008 Danuta applied for a divorce, which was refused because it did not meet the relevant requirements. They continued to live together. On 29 May 2008 Danuta and the offender went on a holiday to Bali. Danuta returned to Australia early, after a couple of nights, following an argument. The offender remained there for about four weeks. Later that year the offender went to Indonesia for about six months and purchased a restaurant at Lombok. Danuta was with him for much of that time. She later told Angela that the offender had abused her and confiscated her passport so that she could not return to Australia by herself.
27The offender would often check up on his wife when she was at work. He repeatedly rang her to ascertain her whereabouts and often waited for her outside work. Danuta confided in colleagues that she was sick and tired of life with her husband and was thinking about leaving him but was scared.
28In 2009 the offender was diagnosed with prostate cancer. He was overcome with self-pity. Both Danuta and Angela accompanied him to various doctors' appointments and discussed treatment options with him. He cancelled a prostatectomy operation shortly before the scheduled date because he was concerned that it would adversely affect his virility. He asserted in evidence that I do not accept that his wife persuaded him not to have the operation because she wanted him to die. He also accused Danuta of trying to kill him by suggesting he cook a steak on the gas barbecue, when the gas bottle was leaking. That his wife was trying to kill him was advanced as one of the delusions that evidenced a mental illness which caused him to act as he did on 31 October 2010.
29From time to time the offender required Danuta to sign documents that purported to have the effect of conferring rights on him. For example on 30 April 2006, Danuta documented her agreement to pay the offender $400 per week for as long as she was working. The document also recorded her acknowledgement as to the reason why he was entitled to the weekly payment:
This has happened because I take full responsibility to what has occurred to him psychologically and I am aware that he is unable to work due to the depression I have caused him because I had given him over the past 15 years sleeping pills. Also in regards to going to mental hospital - Rozelle, I accused my husband for going there which I shouldn't have.
30Another note signed about two months before 31 October 2010, read as follows:
I, Danuta Gierczynski, wife of Andrej Gierczynski agree for him to go out any time and anywhere he wants to do it. I also agreed for "sex" once a month only.
P.S. I will not make any complaints when he gets back. I am anti-social and he misses his social life.
My husband promised me not to gamble and we will get divorced if I catch him gambling.
31The offender frequently predicted violence, if not homicide, in the house. Angela's evidence, which I accept, was:
He said that there would be bloodshed in our house one day, whether it's now, tomorrow, in a year's time. He said that what would I say as a witness and whose side would I take.
32This conversation between the offender and Angela took place years before the murder.
33The offender prepared himself for the contingency that one day he would be charged at least with assaulting Danuta by making the videos already referred to. He also kept documents, such as the two examples referred to above, that his wife had signed at his insistence. I accept Angela's evidence that her father told Danuta that he had evidence that would ensure that she would be locked up in gaol.
34The offender gave evidence that about 10 days before he killed his wife he had bought a tablet from an unnamed, unknown man on the street outside a public car park in Liverpool, who had promised him that it was superior to Viagra and would give him a long-lasting erection. He said that he had taken it the night before the killing because he and his wife seemed to be getting on well and he wanted to have sex with her. According to the offender the tablet had not had the desired effect. It caused him to hallucinate. He said that he had heard voices telling him to kill, which he attributed to the drug. I do not accept that he ever purchased the tablet or had any of the symptoms he described.