Plaintiff's situation in life
24The plaintiff is 72 years of age, single, with no dependents. His assets are personal effects worth $402 and he has liabilities $514. He has the use of his son's car. He receives an age pension, receiving $1,458.60 per month, and this is totally consumed in his expenses.
25The plaintiff lives in a Housing Commission home. There is a possibility of a move as the Housing Commission is selling the accommodation in that area. He will, if that happens, be offered other accommodation by them, particularly since he has been there since 1988. The Housing Commission has, due to his back problems, designated him as a person who is unsuitable for flats.
26He has a number of medical problems. He has problems with his teeth. He is deaf; he has a 42% loss in one ear and an 82% loss in the other ear. He has a hernia which is uncomfortable and he needs an operation. He will require glasses before long and he suffers from degenerative back injury.
27Naturally in this case there has been a fair bit of attention given to the relationship between the plaintiff and the deceased. As I mentioned, he did work at home as a child and he worked on the farm and did what most children do that at that time. When he was 17 years of age he then left and started to move away and worked in various different places.
28The term of imprisonment, as I said, occurred in 1960 and 1961. I have already talked about the events that followed and the failure of the plaintiff to attend his mother's wedding and be the best man. As I said, it is not surprising the deceased was quite upset with him.
29However that may be, he did in fact continue to work there. There was one incident which was given in the oral evidence of the plaintiff which illustrated the type of relationship which may have developed between the deceased and the plaintiff. He was young and he had come into the house wearing hobnail boots. He knew he should not have done that but he forgot to take them off and walked across the floor and that damaged the floor. His mother berated him and, according to the evidence, pushed him down and kicked him.
30The next Sunday while the family was about to sit down to the Sunday roast when he grabbed the tablecloth and pulled it off that table, totally destroying everyone's Sunday lunch.
31That extraordinary incident is not something he is proud of but it does show he has something of a temper, as probably the deceased did as well. Neither of them apologised to each other for any of those matters.
32The relationship after 1962 was very limited and there was only ever one face to face meeting. I have mentioned the fact that he was rebuffed by Mr Marks, according to the plaintiff and how he felt about it.
33In 1975, the plaintiff in fact rang from Western Australia where he was working and spoke to his mother. She told him of her troubles and said "Look, don't worry about us, just worry about yourself", in other words, something of a rejection.
34Eventually by 1983, he got back to New South Wales having been in various parts of Australia and rang his mother and she simply said she and George were okay and he ought to get on with his life. He certainly felt that he was not wanted at that stage.
35In 1984, there was further contact when he offered to help with transporting some of the deceased's produce but that was rejected.
36As I have mentioned, in 1986 he advised his mother of the birth of his son Shane and that at least gave the deceased a new interest.
37The visit which occurred in 1991 was when the plaintiff called in and saw his mother, along with his partner and Shane. Apparently it went well for a while but then the deceased said to the plaintiff "You have got a hide coming back after all these years." He tried to explain the fact he had been away and did not refer to the fact that he had been discouraged by George Marks from speaking to her.
38A little bit later, in 1991, the plaintiff once again when he was in the area tried to see his mother but she told him not to come as she had friends there. He says it was at this stage he realised how difficult his mother was towards him.
39In 1993, there was the misunderstanding about the parcel of clothes for Shane and that produced a somewhat extraordinary response from the deceased. The letter she sent after that event contains a number of allegations, that she assume that the plaintiff only wanted Shane to get money from her estate and referring to the fact she had already made provision for Shane and decided to change it and give the money instead to the Camperdown Children's Hospital.
40The plaintiff wrote to his mother in January 1995 to tell her about the death of his partner Debra. The reply came to Shane from the deceased. I have already mentioned the contact in 1996 for the provision of funds and there was further contact in 1997 when the plaintiff sought to help his mother. After 1997, there was only one contact with the deceased.
41In Foley v Ellis [2008] NSWCA 288 the Court of Appeal referred to the problem that arises in this type of case in these terms:
"101. The more recent authorities have held that a State of a estrangement or even hostility between a testator or testatrix and a claimant does not terminate the obligation of the testator or testatrix to provide for the claimant. In Palmer v Dolman Ipp JA, after a review of the cases, observed (at [110] that:
'... the mere fact of estrangement between parent and child should not ordinarily result, on its own, in the child not being able to satisfy the jurisdictional requirement under the Act.'
See also Wheatley v Wheatley [2006] NSWCA 262 at [22] - [23] per Bryson JA (with whom Santow and McColl JJA agreed), addressing the second stage of the process required by Singer v Berghouse .
102. The authorities indicated that where the claimant has been estranged from the testator or testatrix, the application of section 7 of the Family Provision Act requires that the estrangement be appraised and its causes considered: Wentworth v Wentworth, estate of G M Wentworth (Bryson J) quoted in Wheatley v Wheatley at [22]. In addition, section 9 (3) expressly requires the character and conduct of the eligible person to be taken into account at the second stage of the process. Care should be taken, however, not to over simplify the complex and nuanced relationships within a family by yielding to the temptation to condemn categorically the behaviour of one party or the other. Events viewed years later through the cold prism of a courtroom may give a different impression than when the events are set in the context the raw emotions experienced at the time. The ' wise and just ' testator or testatrix ( Bosch v Perpetual Trustee Co Ltd [1938] AC 463 at 478-479 per Lord Romer) must be taken to understand this."
42It is also useful to see the wise words of Bryson JA in Wentworth v Wentworth (NSWSC, 14 June 1991, unreported) which are in these terms:
"I do not regard a state of estrangement or even hostility as necessarily bringing to an end any moral duty to make provision for an eligible person, with a wife, son, daughter or other. When there is an estrangement the application of section 7 requires that it should be appraised and its causes should be considered. A long-standing severance of a relationship with a parent, or even a clearly-established termination of all communication is not in the present age regarded as necessarily putting an end to moral duty; it may do so, but whether it does calls for appraisal in each case and is not reduced to a clear principle. Respectful submission to paternal wishes, even if they are reasonable, is not a condition of paternal duty. A whole view of the relationship and the character and conduct of both parent and child should now be taken, and the influence of character can be complex. Sometimes people's characters cause them to be poorly disposed towards their parents, and the influence of this on a parent's moral duty is not solely an adverse to the child; people's behaviour is influenced by their characters in ways from which few can escape and of all people their parents have had most time and opportunity to influence character, understand it, become reconciled to it and tolerate its workings when unpleasant.
In another age a different interpretation of the community's sense of moral duty was probably correct, but it is my task to interpret moral duty in my own times. The idealised just and wise testator of the present age knows now that he should not expect submission to his wishes, and knows that his children will be themselves no matter whether he likes it or not, and that they will feel free to interact with any hostile or unreasonable conduct of his own. Courts no longer attribute to the characteristic of being stern to the idealised testator, reflecting a marked change in perceptions of moral duty since 1910 when Edwards J spoke in Allardice v Allardice (1910) 29 NZLR 959 at 973 a father who was just and stern but not loving. Long periods of hostility or estrangement are not inconsistent with successful applications and the contribution of the testator is examined: see for example Gorton v Parks (1989) 17 NSWLR 1, Howarth v Reed , Powell J unreported 15 April 1991."
43It seems clear that the plaintiff, for whatever reason, was abrupt, but so was the deceased. There were problems that prevented some of the contact. There was the relationship with George Marks and the distance of the plaintiff from the deceased for a large part of his life. I also accept it would be difficult for the plaintiff, given his income, to travel to see the deceased. It seems clear that the deceased wanted contact with Shane but not the plaintiff.
44The plaintiff is a fairly simple person and straightforward. He felt he was not wanted by the deceased but, to his credit, he kept on trying. However, he did not have contact partly due to the deceased rebuffing him and partly due to his remote circumstances. In my view his lack of contact should not substantially affect any provision which is made for him.
45It is necessary to consider the circumstances of those having a claim on the bounty of the deceased. There are seven relatives or friends who are beneficiaries who put on no evidence of their financial situation or their relationship with the deceased. These parties have filed no evidence as to their association with the deceased in her lifetime. The Court can therefore assume that they do not wish to Court to take those matters into account.
46I turn to consider the evidence of those who have placed evidence before the court.