When did the de facto relationship end?
19 The Master found that the relationship ended when the appellant was sentenced to a substantial prison term on 25 June 1993. However, there was evidence which established that after that date the respondent had continued to regularly visit the appellant in gaol and that correspondence between the parties indicated that the respondent's sentiments of love and affection continued. The Master based his decision upon the nature of the separation of the parties, finding that as it precluded the parties from living together for a substantial period of time, it was of a different nature than temporary separations such as travel or hospitalisation, which may often occur.
20 However, more than a mere physical separation is required for a de facto relationship to come to an end. The physical separation of the parties must be accompanied by an intention on the part of either partner to permanently end the relationship.
21 The decision at first instance of Cohen J in George v Hibberson (1987) DFC 95-054 indicates that to be separated in a legal sense, there needs to exist the requisite intention to separate. In that case the defendant had left the household she shared with the plaintiff in order to take 'time to work things out and to think about her relationship away from the plaintiff'(at 75,605). She denied having any intention of leaving the plaintiff permanently and gave evidence to the effect that they discussed reconciliation. Cohen J held that although courts must be careful not to equate marriage with a de facto relationship, it is of benefit when considering the question of how a relationship can cease, to look at the law relating to separation in marriage. He noted that the Matrimonial Causes Act 1959 referred to the parties as 'living separately and apart', and that this required both a physical separation and a 'destruction of the consortium vitae or matrimonial relationships' (at 75,608). His Honour cited Sugerman JA in McRae v McRae (1967) 68 SR 361 at 376, where it was said that :
… physical separation of the spouses for a greater or less period often occurs in circumstances in which it could not be suggested that it is indicative of a severance of the marriage relationship. It is, no doubt, for this reason that in establishing a ground for dissolution dependent upon a breakdown of the marriage the legislation imposed a requirement that the parties should have lived 'separately', as well as that they should have lived 'apart', for the requisite period. In the circumstances of physical separation as I have mentioned the spouses may be taken to recognise mutually the continued subsistence of the marital relationship and to intend definitely to resume the closer association of a common life as soon as the occasion or exigency which has led to its temporary interruption has passed.
22 Cohen J cited the Full Court in Pavey v Pavey (1976) FLC 90-051, where it was said that:
…'separation' means more than physical separation - it involves the destruction of the marital relationship… Separation can only occur in the sense used by the Act where one or both of the spouses form the intention to sever or not to resume the marital relationship and act on that intention, or alternatively act as if the marital relationship has been severed.
23 His Honour concluded that emphasis was laid upon the fact that 'mere physical absence… will not amount to separation and living apart unless there is an intention to separate or a party acts as if the marital relationship has ceased'. (at 75,608). He also noted that it was not to be assumed that principles applicable to marriages are immediately applicable to de facto relationships. He added:
The use of the words 'living or having lived together as husband and wife on a bona fide domestic basis' suggest a degree of permanence which will not cease merely because one party separates for the purpose of going on holidays or going on business. Nor would it cease if, after an argument, one party moved out or stayed elsewhere for a short while or went home to his or her family, if there was an intention to return and if there was a reasonable indication of that intention'. (at 75,609)
24 The determination of whether on separation one party intended that there should be an end of the relationship or whether the parties acted in such a way as to indicate the existence of such an intention, is a question of fact.
25 Whilst the judgment of Cohen J was overturned on appeal in Hibberson v George (1989) 12 Fam L R 725, the Court of Appeal did not remark adversely on his Honour's views in relation to the separation. Indeed, Mahoney JA stated (at 740) that:
The essence of the present relationship lies, not in law, but in a de facto situation. I do not mean by this that cohabitation is essential to its continuance: holidays and the like show this. But where one party determines not to 'live together' with the other and in that sense keeps apart, the relationship ceases, even though it be merely … to enable the one party or the other to decide whether it should continue. [emphasis added]
26 Although Mahoney JA was in dissent, the appeal was allowed on an unrelated issue and no comment was made on the subject of separation by either Hope JA or McHugh JA.
27 The general exceptions to a physical separation are those such as holidays, separation for business purposes and for reasons of ill health, see McLaughlin v Saillard & Ors (1990) DFC 95-082. Where the parties have a period apart to consider the future of the relationship, it appears that this may bring the relationship to an end, as the courts appear to have taken the restrictive approach indicated by Mahoney JA in such situations. Young J stated in Jenkin v Ellis (1990) DFC 95-086 at 76,154 that 'normally, a de facto relationship will come to an end if the fact of cohabitation ceases'.
28 In the present case, however, the parties were not taking a period apart to consider the future of the relationship. In addition to physical separation, a determination by one or both of the parties to end the relationship is necessary, and therefore de facto relationships survive separations such as holidays, business trips and hospitalisation. Here the parties were previously physically separated for a period of six months when the appellant was imprisoned in 1989, however there was no indication that the parties intended to end the relationship and the Master did not view it as operating to do so. Although a period of six months is significantly longer than many holidays or business trips, the approach of the authorities discussed focuses not on the length of the separation but on its nature and the intent of the parties. It can be argued that, as in hospitalisation and business trips, a period of imprisonment is involuntary and not accompanied by the necessary intention to end the relationship.
29 At the time of the appellant's imprisonment, and indeed his sentencing in June 1993, there was evidence that both parties intended that the relationship would continue and cohabitation would resume upon the appellant's release. There was clear evidence that the relationship had ended in March 1995, however prior to that time there is no such indication. If the relationship is accepted as having continued until March 1995, the appellant's original Statement of Claim was filed only 3 months out of time, a very different scenario to the Master's conclusion that it was filed 2 years out of time. It may be that the relationship came to an end earlier then March 1995, perhaps in the last six months of 1994. Even if this be the case, the delay is much less than 2 years.
30 In my opinion, the Master's discretion under s 18(2) of the Act miscarried and his refusal of leave should be set aside. In re-exercising the discretion, leave should be granted because the delay is relatively short and was sufficiently explained by the appellant. There were obvious difficulties in communication with his solicitors from gaol, which slowed the commencement of proceedings. Furthermore, it is clear that greater hardship would be caused to the appellant if leave was not granted than to the respondent if leave was granted.