39 When asked to explain why he had adopted this attitude and was so insistent on obtaining the admission he sought he said he was concerned about rumours which he claimed the defendant had circulated that affected his reputation and his ability to perform satisfactorily at yoga classes. He added he believed that if the defendant made the admission he sought she would accept that what had happened in the past was wrong, put it all behind her and stop circulating rumours that affected his reputation. I found this explanation quite remarkable. If, as he claimed, he was concerned about the defendant telling people falsely that she was having a relationship with him it was open to him to confront her directly with that issue. I cannot see any reason for his trying to address the issue by persistently demanding an admission from her of something which he already knew and had evidence of in the form of a series of email exchanges. She had made no secret of her affection for him. His persistent demands for what he called an admission are, in my view, completely inexplicable. I am unable to reconcile those demands with any genuine sense of grievance. In the end, faced with these persistent demands, the defendant reacted as might have been expected by sending the plaintiff a message saying she was uncomfortable with the tone and nature of some of his remarks and asking him to stop sending her any further messages.
40 I am satisfied the defendant was infatuated with the plaintiff. The plaintiff may also have gained the impression the defendant wanted to have a sexual relationship. But I am not satisfied the affair was all one sided as the plaintiff asserted it was. I find that the plaintiff encouraged and cultivated the defendant's interest in him and frequently made flirtatious comments, often in a jocular manner, in his email exchanges with her. While the defendant may have persisted in expressing her interest in the plaintiff even after he had told her there was no prospect of his having any relationship with her, I am satisfied that in the end she saw the futility in what she was trying to accomplish and tried to bring the matter to an end and return to a relationship of teacher/pupil. In my view it was the plaintiff, not the defendant, who refused to let the matter rest. It was he who persistently demanded what he called an admission which, in the light of what had occurred, seemed meaningless. It was he who became obsessed with the notion that she had spread false rumours about her relationship with him. It was he who decided to bring matters to a head by confronting her about her behaviour in open class.
41 I was not impressed with the plaintiff as a witness. Apart from the criticisms I have of the substance of his evidence I also found him to be evasive at times, overbearing and often unnecessarily dogmatic. I realise it is difficult, and often dangerous, to judge a person's veracity and reliability from his or her demeanour and in rejecting the plaintiff's account where it conflicts with that of the defendant, as I unhesitatingly do, I have relied primarily on my findings on the evidence he gave and what I believe to be the implausibility of his version of events.
42 By contrast with the plaintiff I found the defendant to be a very convincing witness. She was calm, relaxed and balanced in her demeanour and her evidence was free of any major improbability. Unlike the plaintiff, whose assertions were often materially inconsistent with the email messages exchanged between the parties, the defendant's account of her relationship with the defendant and how it culminated in the confrontation at the end of class on 14 April 2003 was entirely plausible and, even more important, consistent with the tenor of the email exchanges between her and the plaintiff. I have no hesitation in accepting her evidence in preference to that of the plaintiff. While I have already found she was clearly infatuated with the plaintiff during the initial phase of their relationship I accept her evidence that she did not tell other students in the teacher's training class what was happening. The allegation by the plaintiff that she spread false rumours among the students in the class of their relationship is, in my view, quite without foundation. While students in the class may have suspected that the plaintiff was interested in the defendant such suspicions may have arisen from the interaction of the plaintiff and the defendant in classes and at social gatherings after classes. This was certainly the case with the witness Peter Smith who said he gained the impression during classes that the defendant was showing interest in the plaintiff.
43 The plaintiff's allegation that the defendant wanted him to enter into a sexual relationship is again, in my view, without foundation. I am quite satisfied that the defendant did not express an interest in having a casual affair with the plaintiff. I accept her evidence that at the social meeting she had with the plaintiff on 3 March 2003 she revealed her feelings for the plaintiff but made it quite clear that, if their relationship was to progress to something more intimate, she was not prepared to allow that to happen until the course had been completed. I also accept her assertion that at the end of this meeting she accepted that her feelings for the plaintiff were not reciprocated and agreed with him to put their previous behaviour behind them and simply continue their relationship as friends.
44 In this context I do not accept the plaintiff's assertion that the defendant's subsequent behaviour, including her insistence that he sign the so-called Confidentiality Agreement, was motivated by malice or vindictiveness because of his refusal to have a relationship with her. As I have said I am satisfied that on 3 March 2003 she accepted the inevitable and realised that her romantic feelings for the plaintiff were not shared. Following this acceptance on her part I am satisfied she tried to continue in a normal relationship as between yoga teacher and student but, as she claimed, was inundated with email messages from the plaintiff which became increasingly bizarre and demanding in his insistence upon an admission from her that he had not encouraged her to have a relationship. I find it was this almost unrelenting series of demands for such an admission that led her to ask the plaintiff to sign the confidentiality agreement. I accept the defendant's evidence that she believed this would restore their professional relationship and bring an end to the plaintiff's demands. That belief may have been misguided because there does not appear to be anything in the Confidentiality Agreement that would necessarily have helped the defendant achieve the result she wanted. But that is not the point. I accept her evidence she genuinely believed that, by getting the plaintiff to sign the agreement, their relationship would be restored to that of teacher and student and she could continue teaching the course with the plaintiff as a participant. I reject the plaintiff's assertion that the only reason the defendant asked him to sign the Confidentiality Agreement was because she felt jilted by his refusal to enter into a relationship with her and was acting maliciously and vindictively.
45 In cross-examination counsel for the plaintiff repeatedly suggested to the defendant that she had deliberately refused to discuss the plaintiff's grievances in relation to the so-called Confidentiality Agreement. The defendant agreed but said her refusal arose because of the inappropriate timing which the plaintiff chose to discuss the document. Once again, I accept the defendant's evidence on this point and agree that in the circumstances it would have been impossible for her to deal with the plaintiff's so-called grievance in a calm and rational atmosphere. On the first occasion the issue was raised after class on 8 April 2003 other students were still present and the plaintiff had told the defendant at the time that he did not trust her and intended showing the document to his lawyers. Given his express and public assertion of mistrust in the defendant any balanced discussion at that stage would, from her point of view, have been impossible. The atmosphere was too emotionally charged and the plaintiff was obviously in no mood for a rational discussion. The same can be said of the incident at the end of class on 14 April 2003. The behaviour of the plaintiff on that occasion was, as the defendant asserted, completely inappropriate and made the possibility of any rational discussion between the parties exceedingly remote.
46 The incident in class on 14 April 2003 is obviously very significant. The plaintiff led evidence from one Peter Ross Smith, another student in the same class, to describe what happened at this meeting. The witness had begun attending the defendant's yoga classes in 2001 when he completed a beginner's course before commencing a teacher's training course in 2003. Like the plaintiff he had been given a copy of the document introduced as exhibit 11 explaining the terms and conditions of the teaching course. He also agreed he had eventually signed what was known as the Confidentiality Agreement on 31 January 2003 but believed he had done so after he had already paid for and commenced the course. He described how the plaintiff and defendant appeared to be on friendly terms and said he gained the impression that the defendant was showing an interest in the plaintiff. Focusing on the incident in the class on 14 April 2003 the witness described how the plaintiff raised concerns with the defendant in the presence and hearing of all the other students who attended on that occasion. While the plaintiff did not appear to be agitated at the time, and spoke in what was described as a polite and controlled manner, the witness claimed the plaintiff unequivocally accused the defendant of unfairness in asking him to sign the Confidentiality Agreement after having earlier expressly exempted him from having to do so. The witness, Peter Smith, described how the plaintiff said he had tried to raise the issue with the defendant in accordance with the grievance procedure that was in place but because of her lack of response he felt he had no option other than to raise it with her in class in front of the other students. The witness, Peter Smith, went on to say he heard the plaintiff tell the defendant that he believed his rejection of her advances towards him was the reason why she had gone back on her previous undertaking that he need not sign the Confidentiality Agreement. From what the witness, Peter Smith, said it was clear that the plaintiff publicly accused the defendant of treating him unfairly because of his rejection of her advances. Following this confrontation, during which the plaintiff apparently did most of the talking, the witness, Peter Smith, said the defendant asked the plaintiff to leave the room. After he had left a discussion ensued among those present as to what had occurred. The witness, Peter Smith, said he was so concerned by what had happened, and the potential adverse impact it might have on the teaching programme and the others involved in it, that on the following day he telephoned the defendant and suggested that he mediate between her and the plaintiff. He said the defendant told him that she already had the matter in hand.