The effects of the collision
9 The plaintiff was given leave after the Melbourne returned to Sydney. He stayed at a flat at Summer Hill where Mrs Saunders was then living with her sister. Both those ladies gave evidence that, on the night that he arrived, he spoke of what had happened. As he did so, he was crying and he tore a handkerchief into shreds. He and Mr Sykes, who had also been aboard the Melbourne, went to a nearby hotel and got very drunk. Mrs Saunders was still up when he returned to the flat, and she said that she had never before seen him in that condition. They went to bed, but during the night she awoke to find him apparently having a nightmare. He was sitting upright in the bed and screaming, "His arms, his arms! His legs, his legs!" Mrs Herbert heard him from the next room, where she was sleeping.
10 The plaintiff himself described a recurrent nightmare in which he was being pursued in a passageway of a ship, which became narrower as he ran. He said that he had never had a nightmare of that kind before the collision and that he had generally been a good sleeper. After the collision, quite apart from the nightmares, he tended to wake in the small hours and had trouble getting back to sleep. Mrs Saunders said that he did not have any sleep problems before the collision. She said that the nightmare which she had described occurred every night for several months after the collision. Thereafter, she said, as his drinking continued, "the nightmares and sleeping patterns sort of settled down." The frequency of the nightmares decreased until "there was none".
11 However, the evidence of both the plaintiff and Mrs Saunders is that his drinking increased, as he put it, "drastically." Obviously, there were times when he was on duty when he had no access to alcohol, but he said that he drank large quantities of beer "at every opportunity that I got." Mrs Saunders saw the aftermath of the collision as the start of "his heavy drinking problems", saying that he was "always full." She said of him, "Where he was a gorgeous handsome man that I met, he had turned into a man that just went to drink."
12 There was also a marked change in his personality. Mrs Saunders said that he was not the same person, that he was "very sad" and that he had "lost all enthusiasm." Mr Sykes said that, after the collision, "he seemed to be a lot more argumentative and harder to get on with" and that he "seemed to be in a world of his own".
13 Notwithstanding these developments, the plaintiff and Mrs Saunders married in December 1964. She said that she married him "because I wanted to get him on a better pathway in life than where he was after the accident". Unfortunately, the situation did not improve. She said that he certainly was not a happy person, that when he was ashore he avoided coming home and, when he did, he had clearly been drinking. They delayed their honeymoon until he left the Navy in 1967, when they travelled to New Zealand. She described the honeymoon as "a disaster". He was "okay" during the day, but at night he would stay up and drink rather than joining her in bed.
14 It is clear that the marriage was not viable. The plaintiff said that he was drinking heavily and was "continually neglecting her". Mrs Saunders' evidence was to the same effect. Of the marriage generally, she said that "he was there but it wasn't happy". She added that "he didn't want to come to bed". She left him for a period in 1968 but went back to him. However, she terminated the relationship in 1969 because, as she put it, "I had no marriage". They were later divorced.
15 In assessing the evidence of Mrs Saunders, it is fair to observe that the plaintiff was away at sea for substantial periods of time in 1964 and 1965. It was only after that time, when he was posted ashore in Sydney, that she lived with him continuously. However, in December 1966 she moved to his home town of Eden and lived with his family until he left the Navy in March of the following year, when he joined her there.
16 In the early 1970s he lived for a time with Mrs Herbert, who was then herself married. She described him during that period as "a total absolute misery". She said that during dinner he would sit at the table "just crying for no reason at all" and would repair to his room. She said, frankly, that she was pleased when he finally left. In assessing the significance of that evidence for present purposes, it is fair to bear in mind that this was only a year or so after his relationship with her sister had broken down.
17 As I have said, he married his present wife, Mrs Janice Blaxter, in 1974. She was herself divorced and had two teenage sons from her previous marriage. This marriage proved to be both enduring and rewarding. He said in evidence that they were "very compatible" and "very much in love". They lived at Mount Druitt and Penrith until 1991, when they moved to Iluka on the north coast of New South Wales.
18 Mrs Blaxter herself described him as an attentive and caring husband, who had been a responsible provider and had effectively adopted her children as his own. However, she also described him as very quiet and reserved, and as one who mixed with others only reluctantly. As a result, their social life was limited. She assessed his self-esteem as "very low", saying that he "puts himself down a lot".
19 He also remained a heavy drinker, although he said that his drinking moderated somewhat after the move to Iluka. This was confirmed by Mrs Blaxter, who said that every day he drank "a fair bit" of beer. She said that it did not "affect him like it would some people" (presumably because he had developed a considerable tolerance over the years) and that it would make his mood "a little lighter". It was her observation that he continued to drink heavily after the move to Iluka. He drank home brewed beer and some kind of whisky, which, apparently, he also made himself. He would start drinking in the late afternoon, and after dinner he would sit in a lounge chair and sleep for several hours. Generally, his consumption of alcohol concerned her.
20 In 1997 he went to Brisbane to attend a reunion with some of his former naval companions. Among them was Mr Miller, who had not seen him since the 1960s. Mr Miller described him on that occasion as "very quiet, withdrawn" and "not the sort of bloke I expected to see". He added that he was "scoffing the grog like it was going out of fashion". Mr Van der Hoek gave evidence of a reunion in 1998, which might have been a reference to the same occasion. He also had not seen the plaintiff since the 1960's. He observed him to be "very down" and to drink a lot, although he added that they all drank to excess that night.
21 The plaintiff said that he continued to experience the nightmare which he had described, and this also was confirmed by Mrs Blaxter. She said that he was a very restless sleeper, and that she would be awoken by his throwing himself about and moaning and groaning. To her he described a nightmare in which he was "in a tunnel or a narrow corridor" and was "being pursued by something". This, she said, had first occurred very early in the relationship and had not changed over the ensuing years.
22 I have referred to the evidence of his speaking of the collision, in great distress, when he first saw Mrs Saunders and Mrs Herbert after the event. Thereafter, he said, he rarely spoke about it to anybody (apart from the professional consultations which ultimately led to the present proceedings, to which I shall refer later). Yet again, this was confirmed by both Mrs Saunders and his present wife. Mrs Saunders said that, when she asked him about his nightmares, he "closed off" from her and would not discuss them. She could recall one other occasion when they were reading newspaper articles about the collision and he said no more than, "That's yours truly there." Otherwise, she said that he never wanted to discuss it and kept it to himself. Mrs Blaxter also could recall one occasion on which he spoke of it, when there was a television programme about it in which the Melbourne was depicted. He said that he had been on that vessel, but otherwise had "not very much" to say.
23 Some of his behaviour over the years since the collision suggested a high level of anxiety, such as he had not experienced before it. He said that, generally, "things have got to be right and in order so that I do not have the fear of anything happening because it is not in order." He cited as an example his need to check the family car after it had been serviced. He said that he always had to check "a couple of times" that the house was locked before he and his wife went out. Mrs Blaxter said that, if they left the house to go on holiday, he had "a ritual" of checking about three times that all doors and windows were locked, such that sometimes "we leave the home three times."
24 In the early 1990's, after the move to Iluka, he joined the Coastguard as an onshore radio operator. On one occasion a yacht had to be rescued in very rough weather and he was anxious throughout the operation, fearing that he would not be able to make decisions "when the pressure was really on." He resigned as a radio operator after that incident.
25 Mrs Blaxter said that he was reluctant to fly, as he did not like being in the confined space of an aircraft and feared that it would crash. At Iluka he bought an aluminium dinghy, but he only used it "a handful of times" and eventually sold it. He said that it "revived some memories that I had in other small boats and I didn't enjoy it …" Mrs Blaxter said that he used the boat "probably four or five times at the most", and that he didn't like the smell of the motor because "it reminded him of the cutter."
26 They had been to sea on holiday, including several trips to Heron Island on a catamaran and a ferry trip to Tasmania. He said that he was "anxious" during those trips. Mrs Blaxter said that, when they boarded the ferry for Tasmania, he checked the lifeboats and the exits to ensure that the vessel was safe. He was also prepared to pay a significantly higher fare to ensure that they had an external cabin with a porthole, above the waterline. The significance of that emerges from some evidence given by Mrs Herbert, who said that he had told her that on the Melbourne he would sleep "on top of the ship in the safety boats because he was too frightened to go downstairs." She was not sure whether he said that that was when the Melbourne was sailing back to port after the collision or when he later returned to continue his service on that vessel.